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Hi Friends! I hope you are all doing well 🙂! I wanted to reach out and ask this question, because I have been having some worries about it. Can you pass HSV through urine, period blood, or poo? I know that is an... odd questions to say the least, but I was thinking about sharing a bathroom with those who do not have Gential HSV-1. When someone else has to clean the toilet or the shower, etc, could they contract it? Or, if you accidentally get a little drop of urine on the toilet seat, and you wipe it off, could the next person who sits on it get herpes somehow? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!! Thank you all SO much!!

@DeMar Hello! I just read what you had posted. I am really sorry about everything, and I am sorry she is not feeling well. However, please know that this is not your fault. Yes, it is very sad that she is struggling. She doesn't deserve that. However, you don't deserve to feel guilty or horrible, either. You can have sympathy and empathy, but make sure you don't absorb these emotions and problems like a sponge. Having two, let alone one, panicking people isn't good, right?! You have extended your hand and have offered support, which is all you can do. Right now, just let it go. Forgive yourself and the situation and keep on keeping on. Sending Positivity and Strength!! 🌄🌼❤️☀️

@Whyymeee Hello!! Aw, that's okay. Just remember that the way people respond to us is a reflection of who THEY are, not who YOU are. Only a few of my friends know; I don't talk to people about it unless they are someone I am dating. Other than that, it's my business. I am also so thankful for this forum. It reminds me I am never alone, and this means so much, especially during the pandemic. Sending Happiness and Positivity!! 🌼🌄☀️❤️🍀😊

Hi!! ❤️ It is okay. Just be patient and kind and accepting with yourself. When we love ourselves at our lowest we can achieve so much more because we are letting go of any judgment that is holding us down. I honestly have been struggling, too! I just got into tapping, which is a type of Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) that helps us address issues while helping is work towards our goals. I totally recommend it!! ❤️ Also, you mentioned veganism!! 🌼 I have been vegan for 11 years and I love it! 🐄❤️ However, we all have a different way of living that works for us. Release judgement and just listen to your body and soul. All the rest will fall into place!! 🌼☘️❤️😊!!! Sending Love and Light!! ❤️☘️🌼🌈🍀☀️🌄!!!

Hello!! 🌼 I completely understand your question, and I have had the fear myself! However, rest assured. The information above is totally true. Sometimes our feelings and worries make us doubt science, but the facts are FACTS! Just wash your hands if you have an outbreak, practice good hygiene overall, and trust in your body. Sometimes after we get herpes we don't trust our bodies anymore. In fact, sometimes we loose trust in a lot of areas, like love or hope. The truth is that we can have even stronger trust connections with our body, mind, and spirit with HSV than we did before! ☀️ If you ever need support or someone to talk to, we are all here for you!! Sending love and light your way! ☀️🌼❤️🍀🌈

@wishing Hello! ❤️🌄🌼!! Welcome!! I am so happy you decided to join the community forum!!! 🤗!!! I am sorry about the outbreaks. They can be really frustrating. Do you have HSV-1 or HSV-2, and located where on the body? I have never used Valtrex, but Acyclovir worked really well for me during my first GHSV-1 outbreak. In terms of more homeopathic remedies, I have used topical lysine which works wonders for the burning and itching, and creates almost a protective cover of sorts for against clothing (great for HSV on the lower area regions). Diet, stress levels, and hormones or sexual intimacy all can impact outbreaks, however they can impact HSV-1 and HSV-2 differently/with more intensity. However, by "getting to know" your specific outbreak triggers (what happens directly before your outbreaks? A day before? A few days?) you can learn what factors you can affect to help prevent outbreaks. There are many people on here who have successfully worked through their constant outbreaks with the help of homeopathic remedies and therapies, and I am sure they would be happy to help!! ❤️😊🌼!! Sending Love and Light your way!!! 🌼🌄❤️🌈🍀☀️!!!

Hi!!! I loved this story ❤️ Thank you for sharing!! You deserve this beautiful, accepting love ❤️. One of the most key (and often underestimated!) foundations of a strong and healthy relationship is ☀️respect☀️ Respecting our physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual choices is key, and finding someone who respects ALL of us (including our herpes🤗) is key, too!! Sending Love and Light you and your significant other's way! ☀️🍀🌈🌄❤️🌼

@DeMar Hi!! I am so sorry for the pain you both are suffering. This is such a hard situation. As someone with OCD, anxiety, and eating disorder issues, herpes and illness can cause such intense worry, shame, and guilt because herpes effects our physical self and emotional self (especially since it's so stigmatized). However, this is not really anyone's fault. It's a virus. You both were consenting adults going into it. It happened. And that sucks. However you are there for her, and that means a lot. Even if she cannot express it right now, I'm sure she feels happy you are sticking by her for support if she needs it. Your feelings DO matter right now. Make sure you do not absorb the suffering of others. You can sympathize and help and offer kindness, support, comfort, and time, but taking on additional pain doesn't help her OR you! I would say offer an ear, or an information source. If she has questions about living with herpes, you are a resource. Something people often need is someone to LISTEN, not offer advice, but to just listen without judgement or comments at all. You can tell her that you're here for both, listening and advice. If she chooses to stop talking to you, that's up to her. However, she seems like she is afraid of never being with someone who accepts her for her physical self, but YOU DO! Even as a friend, this is HUGE. You can even reassure her that she still matters no matter what. And that you are there for her even as a friend through this (if you choose to be!) I hope this helps ❤️ Sending Love and happiness your (and her!) Way!!! ❤️🌈🌄🌼🍀☀️

@My thoughts Hey!! ☀️🍀 First, I totally respect this post. Heck yes, herpes is a viral, painful, and overall 'yucky' disease. Trust and honesty is KEY. I love the term "radical acceptance" also and it has helped my friend and I immensely. Something I always disclose to people is that I can give it to you ALWAYS. Not just with outbreaks. It's ALWAYS there. And frankly, that's biology. Cells and viruses are sassy creatures, but they don't determine who we are. We are SO much more than the herpes we have! ❤️🍀🌼 Your insight and honesty really is awesome, and thank you for that. May you be blessed with goodness, and may the truth always come forward! 🍀☀️❤️ Sending love and light!!! ☀️❤️🍀🌼🌄🌈

@Southpaw Hi!! Thank you so much for your kind words. I had another panic attack today due to some PTSD issues but I am feeling much better now that I got to vent and cry, and I am relaxed and drinking tea 🍵❤️. I am sorry for your loss of your parents. May they be blessed and in heaven ❤️. I'm so happy they raised a human like you! ☀️❤️! I am so sorry to hear about your family's lack of kindness and support for HSV. It's frustrating when people choose to be ignorant. However, don't let the chumps get you down. Chumps will be chumpin' (will version of 'haters gonna hate'). Haha lol. Stay strong and be well ❤️ yes! Let's pray and hope for a cure and for help for all those affected ❤️🌈🌼 Sending light and love your way!!! ☀️🌄🌈🌼❤️!!!

@DeMar Hello! ❤️☀️ I just read your post and I wanted to say that I am sorry for what happened. Abandonment hurts a lot, and it's like opening up an old wound; every other little thing regarding rejection and abandonment just opens up and it leaves us feeling broken hearted and unwanted. However, you ARE wanted. You are worthy of healthy, happy love with someone who wants to and can be with you. It is wrong for this person to be with you and then suddenly leave, especially without explanation. If this person has an immunocompromised condition such as AIDS or HIV, or even something like Multiple Sclerosis or Lupus, HSV could significantly harm their health or trigger their conditions or cause relapse, and It is SO hard when medical complications complicate relationships. If anything, this person probably feels horrible, angry, and overwhelmed at THEMSELVES because their condition is preventing them from being with you, someone who makes them so happy, and maybe they just are angry at life. Although all emotions are okay, they should have been more mature about it, and should have worked through things WITH you, not without you. This person may come back in the future. Then, it is your choice to accept them back or respectfully say no thank you. You can acknowledge their shame and suffering and be sympathetic, but in no way should you ignore your own feelings and accept the person back right away because you are fearful no one else will want you. You are WANTED, NEEDED, and worthy of so so much good ❤️ Please know you are beautiful, pure, and a blessing. Another love will come it's way. See what this relationship has taught you; about you, about others, about how to be stronger and resilient through times of pain. We are all here for you!! If you ever need a buddy to vent to, feel free to direct message me 😊. Sending Love and Light!! ☀️🌄🌼❤️🌈

@DistressedLady Hello! ☀️🌼 Aw, thank you for your kind words. I am really happy my mom was supportive! It's okay if you can't tell your parents, especially if it would cause more stress for you. I'm sorry that your mom keeps pressing about getting back together with your ex. That will all go away when you find an even better new significant other 😉❤️!!!!! Stay strong! You are loved and deserving of love and joy. 🌼☀️❤️🌄🌈

Hello, Everyone ❤️ Today was a really rough day. I had a nervous breakdown and just really hit a low. I vented everything to my mom, and explained my OCD, herpes fears, and feelings of guilt and shame around having my herpes. My mom was kind and understanding. It is really awkward to talk to your mom about herpes, especially when they are strict. I told her that I constantly feel afraid I will give my family herpes by sharing food, doing laundry, even touching objects, even though the science says that is not how it works. Honestly, the times when we feel like we will be harshly judged and should keep quiet are actually the times when we NEED to talk and actually won't be judged. The people who really love us will be understanding. I told my mom that I was afraid she would judge me or be disappointed in me, but she wasn't. She said, "You trusted someone and they ended up giving this to you, and that isn't your fault." And she is so right. She told me I'm not dirty or less of a person, and this really really meant so much to me. Please know that disclosing your HSV to someone close to you who is kind and accepting can help release SO much pressure and secrets, and I feel so much more free and able to heal. My feelings of guilt and shame disappeared and I gained a comforting resource, my mom, to help me through my journey. ❤️🍀🌼☀️ Yay for kind understanding humans! I love my mama bear 🐻❤️!!!

Oh gosh I forgot!!! Recommend the CDC or WHO as resources for more info (trustworthy!😊). Also, he may have follow up questions, so just be prepared for those ❤️. If he asks medical questions, just be honest about it. Such as... Higher transmission risks with HSV2, and even though you do not get frequent outbreaks, HSV2 outbreaks tend to occur more frequently than genital HSV1. Just be honest now because you never would want to feel guilty later on if he hypothetically gets it. Always play "worst case scenario". You can even ask yourself "Did I tell him everything I needed to to ensure that I could feel happy and at peace with my disclosure if he hypothetically got HSV2, and advise him on safety and his own health?" ❤️ I hope this helps!! Sorry for the looonnnngggg answers haha !!!! Sending Love and Light ❤️🌄☀️🍀😊🌼😺

Hello!! ☀️🍀 I hope you are well! This is a very anxious time, but you really nailed it with your disclosure example!!! I am really proud of you for taking this step in the relationship, and I hope everything goes well! However, please do not feel obligated to share, unless you predict sexual intimacy in next date's forecast (that weather analogy is so cringe-y but it fit well, lol). This is something YOU are sharing, and you deserve to feel solid and confident on the disclosure podium. In NO way would it be leading someone on if you wait to have the talk until you are ready for sexual relations. Positive, 110%-in consent to engage in sexual intimacy is the best (and positive no-pressure consent is the sexiest!). Do not feel afraid he will walk away if you don't have sexual intimacy right away, and someone who would just up and leave because you want to abstain from it for a little bit (whether it's until you feel vulnerable to have the talk or because you just want to wait to have a sexual relationship) is a real CHUMP. Chumps are a NO. YOU DESERVE WAY MORE THAN A CHUMP. 😤 Haha. buuutttt..... IF YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR VULNERABILITY AND DECIDE TO TALK... Make sure it's a good time to talk, too (not in public, make sure he isn't angry or upset about something else that happened earlier that may influence his responses/reactions) and be calm and confident. This isn't a remorseful confession, it's a simple common virus!!! No need to apologize for having it, either (you didn't ask for it!) This is also a time to find out more about him, and disclosure is something that really brings out the deep parts of people we don't always see right off the bat.... Is he an attentive listener during an intense discussion? Is he judgmental? Does he value facts over rumors? Does he like me for more than my body, and is he worthy of all of me? Remember that his response is something he controls, so don't feel mad at yourself if his reactions or choice to continue dating you are not positive. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be! 🍀☀️🌼 Sending happiness and positive energy!! 🌼☀️🍀❤️🌄🌈

@DistressedLady Hi!! 🌼 First, "broken beyond repair" is not something that just simply is NOT cool to say, especially to someone who feels horrible already. These words hurt, and can make us feel like because we have herpes, WE are broken beyond repair. You are NOT broken, damaged, or ruined in any way shape or form. You are strong and beautiful and you can do so much better. The one amazing thing that herpes has taught me it that it filters out people I meet; it really shows who someone is, and perhaps this is seeing this person's true colors for the first time. None of this is your fault, and anyone who makes you feel like it is (even if they SAY they don't blame you, but act like they are) are NOT worthy of your time and energy. Stay strong and do what you would tell a friend to do-- if someone you loved were in this situation, wouldn't you tell them to move on from this person, treat yourself with respect and kindness, and be free and happy ❤️? I am sending you love and light! We are all here for you! 🌼❤️🌈🌄🍀☀️

@Idunnooooo Hello!! ❤️ I just saw your post and I wanted to say that you are loved and worthy or love and happiness. I also have had HSV1 since I was 19 (I'm now 21) and it is really hard to feel okay because other people our age can be very immature about such intense and sensitive subject such as herpes. However, with easier ways to look up information (and misinformation-- sources matter!!) People our age can also be really kind and willing to listen. Bottom line, do what you need to do: be honest with the person, give them time to process, watch for outbreaks and prodrome (tingling, pain, etc) and keep open communication with your person so they know when to/to not make a move or be physical. Obstaining from genital contact/touching while you think you have an outbreak/will or currently do is key, but you can still kiss someone of course ❤️ don't worry about that!! I have bad OCD and get paranoid that just by touching a doorknob I'll give someone my GHSV1, and that anxiety hurts too much. Let it go and be free 🌈😊🌼🌄. Always be true and honest with yourself and others, and those who are really worthy of your love and time will choose to stay with you, because the science doesn't lie!-- safe sex practices as well as understanding risks and being honest about even that slight chance of transmission really matters. And when people see that GHSV has low outbreaks, is literally related to chicken pox and cold sores, has low transmission rates, etc, we can dismantle the fear everyone has about herpes and the love and understanding can thrive. Sending light and love❤️🌄🌼😊

@mr_hopp Thank you SO MUCH for this post. I did not know GHSV1 had such low transmission rates. This literally has lifted such stress off my shoulders and I wish I knew that two years ago!!!! Thank you ❤️

@Southpaw Yo, as a fellow chocolate-lover I must say that semisweet chocolate chips are my literal nighttime snack that I have almost every day, haha!! Also, I am so happy that you have gotten better with your outbreaks! Congrats! You deserve to be well, happy, healthy, and loved, always ♥️. Sending Love and Light 🌄💛 !!

Hello!! @dreamer05! I hope you are well. I just saw this and wanted to reach out. I totally feel for your anxiety, and it can feel really scary and embarrassing to think you may have given it to someone! I also have Genital HSV1, but I have only had about three outbreaks in two years, like @My thoughts was saying. If I even think I might be having an outbreak, I abstain from sexual interactions to be super safe and keep my mind calm and happy. I have such bad OCD and anxiety I just can't handle worrying. However, I've gotten so much better since joining this forum!!! Everyone is so nice and helpful!!! 💛🌄 What matters it you were HONEST about it. He knew the risks. You are both consenting adults and you did your part (took your 500 mg Valtrex, told him, made sure you weren't having an active outbreak, etc). However, not using a condom is always risky, but again, two consenting adults here! Did his test actually come back positive? If no, YAY! If yes, just breathe. Again, you told him, he knew. There wasn't a condom, consenting adults. You can be kind and understanding, but in no way be a punching bag for him or take on any not nice feelings he has. Break-ups happen for a reason and you deserve someone who is kind and understanding of ALL of you!! I hope everything is okay! I am sending prayers and happiness to you and those in your life. It'll all be okay! Be Kinder to Yourself! 💛🌄

@elysium17 Hello! First, I am so sorry for your pain. Your feelings are valid and you have every right to vent freely in this space. I really hope you are feeling somewhat better since this post. You do not deserve this at all. I also have GHSV1, but not at all in the severity which you have explained. Herpes lives in the spinal column, so perhaps, as another member mentioned, you are immunocompromised, or have another underlying viral condition which is amplifying the HSV1, or you are sensitive to the herpes simplex virus overall. You could take a blood test and ask your doctor for a full metabolic panel and a test of various sexually transmitted diseases (check for HIV especially). You can also have your hormones checked, as these can affect outbreaks. In the meantime please know we are here for you. If you ever need buddy support, please feel free to direct message me at any time and I'll try to get back to you ASAP. Stay well. Be kind to yourself. Stay strong. Remember, the world needs you. ➡️❤️➡️ If you ever need to contact the suicide hotline, call 1-800-273-8255. Don't hesitate to call for help. You are worthy of help and support. Always. ❤️ You are loved ❤️ ❤️ The 🌎 needs you ❤️ Sending healing and happy prayers your way!! ☀️☀️☀️

Hello @Hqpdo! I hope you are well ☀️🍀. I honestly am not sure, however herpes does live in the base of the spinal column at the end of the spine, so perhaps it could be a neurological connection causing the constant tingling? I would definitely ask your doctor, or even a Planned Pregnancy clinic or other agency that provides appropriate science-based medical care. In the mean time, obstaining from sexual interaction and assuming it is from viral shedding would be the safest choice until you definitively know what the tingling is from. However, I researched this and discovered a condition called postherpetic or prodromal neuralgia, a neurological condition occuring with later outbreak cases of oral/facial HSV1 ... But I am wondering if this prodromal neuralgia could happen with HSV1 or 2 in the genital area as well (?). Here is the article for more info: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/1624816/ I am sorry for the late reply, I just saw your post!! I am sending you healing thoughts and happy vibes! ❤️🌼☀️🍀

Hi!! I just read this and wanted to send some happy vibes! I hope you are doing better. We are here for you! Direct message me if you need any additional happy energy. Sending Health, Happiness, and Good Vibes 🌄❤️

@Sarah317 Hi!! I am sorry to hear that you are struggling. The shooting pain is so horrible, and it is honestly so strange that herpes lives in the base of our spines, which causes those neuron shoots to the legs and lower back. Your body may still be getting used to the virus (since you've only had it two months), and stress can impact the virus. Sometimes the stress we get from the first outbreak compounded with the fear of having another and the stress of feeling like you are bad or dirty (which you are not!) could be making our stress levels so high we get another outbreak (how poopy 💩 is that?!) I would say take it easy. Be kind to yourself and your body. This is not your fault. We are all here for you whenever you need! If you are ever having a rough night or day feel free to private message me, just for some company or support! Sending Love and Wellness ❤️

First, you calling herpes a "little b***h of a virus," made me laugh out loud, so thank you for that. Second, I am so sorry you are experiencing the repeat breakouts. There are so many factors that can impact flareups, including diet, which you mentioned. I wanted to ask if you had HSV1 or HSV2, as I know HSV2 outbreaks can link highly to hormones (for example, many people who menstruate get their outbreaks with their periods). Stress is a major change, so has anything stressful happened in your life recently? It could even be the COVID vaccine, as another member mentioned. Overall, I am so sorry about this. I am sending you hope, love, wellness, and peace. ❤️ We are here for you if you need any more support, or feel free to private message me if you just need a buddy to talk to!!