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Tell him those exact words! "I want us to get through this. Together." Maybe when u do talk to him again, let him know that although you know he has your back, at times you want a little more support, and encouragement, and h shouldnt be so awkward for the 2of you to talk about, maybe ask him if he still has questions about the virus. its hard to support somone when you dont really know what theyre going thru either mentally or physically. ...just a thought... good luck

Congrats chickie! Way ta get that weight off your shoulders! Good for you! Hope it all stays great!!

.. what are you guys telling ur boss's when your really uncomfortable with an ob? I deliver car parts for a living, and its hot as hell where i am, and not that working today will make it worse, just more uncomfortable.. I didnt go back to work yesterday after lunch, n just told the boss my sister wasnt feelin good and needed my to stay home to take care of her... but what can i say today? "Oh hey boss man, my h ob is almost clearrd up but i dont feel like comming into work yet?" ya... not gonna say that haha... i know this sounds kinda juvi here.. do i just lie again and say my sis still needs me?

K thanks dancer! Always love hearing from you!

Ooook.. not understanding my body with the herpes obs. first ever sympton was in dec/jan a tiny bump next to the clit. Went away on its own. then 2 weeks later the perinium area was super itchy as hell, took valtrex and it didnt stop for 2 weeks! in april went thru excrutiating pain, a bump appeard next to the clit, but then grew ... i mean like an inch long, centimeter wide, pain pain pain, epsom salt baths didnt work...was on valtrex and i ended up on naproxen.. and prob o.d. a bit but it was the only thing that helped the pain. No itch or burn or blisters. 2 weeks ago had itchy red skin on perinium which then turned into bumps.. like 5 or 6. No blisters no burn. Took valtrex again. literally right now i just took a valtrex cuz i felt a tiny bit of discomfort/pain after going to the washroom. No burn no itch. But i think i see tiny little cluster of bumps. Like super tiny, but this time is on the other side of the clit compared to the past symptons.Which could maybe be an ob hence why i took valtrex just now. i called the doc n have an apt mon. Gonna try n go on suppressives. has any of u gone thru this? Different areas, confusing symptons, grrrrr. i mean i understand h is a tricky lil bugger, but over the past 6 months i figured i would understand the .. my prodoms.. any feedback is much appriciated!!!! xox

So a slight shooting pain isnt caused by h?

So does this mean the movie 'planet of the apes' might actually be accurate? lol

Hi daisies... im so sorry for all you pain and frustration, and as dancer said you wont be the same, you'll be BETTER! dont give up on yourself. Dont feel like h is going to ruin things, because it wont ok? I mean hell as difficult as hiv and aids are, people who have that can still find love and have sex! I myself hate docs too, i think we all do! When i was just born my mom had to visit her doc 4 times then saw 2 other different doctors until one finally diagnosed me with celiac disease at 14months old. I went to 8 or hell might be 9 docs in january to figure out what the hell was wrong with me, (aside from h, i still think somethin else is going on) You still have your sense of humor, your still sexual, your still you, just a better, stronger you. maybe itll take a couple days... or weeks, sometimes it takes a couple months... but you WILL feel better emotionally, and h will calm down. Try to learn as much as u can about h, and yourself. Information is power, show us what youre REALLY made of!!

Thank you @ihaveittoo! Its weird, i hate the internet, i dony have facebook, i only mad an email 8 months ago for my cell phone plan.... and if it werent for the internet... *shiver* i dont know where id be with this emotional roller coster. Thanks again everyone, i dont know you guys, but u saved me..

Thanks Dancer! Dont know what i would have done if i hadnt found this forum, and met u!

This is prob going to be long, but i hope this helps others who think now how i thought then. First... quick background I was dating a guy, an hour out of town, went on for maybe 4 months... He was much older than me, but not wiser, lead me on only to ignor my existance for almost 3 months. Hurt and lonely as all hell i agreed to go to my neighbor's place dec23-2013 for some drinks. Stupid one night stand. Guilt and disgust overcame me on my shamefull walk home. Not even realizing that i paid into wayyy more than i barganned for, 2 days later noticed tiny itty bitty bump, i honestly thought it was hpv (warts) cuz i first got hpv in 2007..fast foward.. jan3-2014 test results possitive hsv2. Devistated. Ashamed. Slut. No one could possibly like me now.. or love me. Why did my ex n i brake up? F***!.... Alcohol? Empty stomach?... i downed a 26 of vodka that night in less than 40 mins. in hopes i wouldnt wake up sat morning. i did.... and as soon as i stopped puking around 4pm that folowing sat... i drank again... and again... is it april already? What is this (h) opportunity forum all about?... Freedom hope and love! Blood test in april said negative hsv1 and negative hsv 2. Hmm? Started feeling human again thanks to everyone here!. Throughout everyones help i learned that test (even though it was done 3and a half months after possible transmission) could be a false negative. Oh well who cares if it is? I finally learned to love myself, and h helped me to "filter" out all the assholes in my life that i thought were my friends! And then the unexpected happend.... i met a guy.. well, not just any guy, a sweet, understanding guy. Redneck just like myself! We were making out on his couch one day after a fishing trip, he wanted to move to the bedroom... at this point i believe he and i only knew eachother for 3 days... "Uhm... babe.. i cant do this!" "Why?" "Well its just a little to soon.. ya know?" "Thats fine i dont mind waiting!" "And theres a big chance i might have herpes, im getting another blood test june 1st.. so i know.. and so you know. And as awkward as you might feel at this moment, imagine how awkward and devistated youd feel if i didnt tell you! I dont want to pass it to you, risks are low, but not low enough especially since we're still getting to know eachother, theres like a 4% chance of me passing it to u and..."... (i prob said all this a lil too fast, but in a "i dont really, and i hope you dont really care" manner) "Oh...kinda wish u told me this before we wentto my bedroom" .."and i totally understand if you dont want to do this anymore.." He kissed me. Again! Next thing i know were still talking and visiting eachother, we decided we liked eachother alot, made it official bf/gf june first. i got the call from the doc a week later .. possitive blood test for hsv2. I asked him if he was still ok with dating me and he replied with " babe i already made my desicion a week ago, i mean it sucks, but we can work around right?" and so now, here i sit, typing away on my phone to all of you to say thank you, thank you for your hope, for giving me hope. For helping me through a moment of insanity. Thank you.. and i hope for those in a wrestless mindset right now... i hope this helps you guys. its not easy. But it becomes easier, i now ignor the stigma like how i ignor my ex friends. xox

Is an hour away

I just saw my family doc.... thats kinda all thas available around where i live to get yo a gyno u need to be refered to by ur fam doc and i believe the closest o

Super iintresting.... reminds me if that kitten story one of the girls posted not too long ago..

Ok woah, i have to say this.... first breathe..... and breathe again... I ended up with genital warts 7years ago, thanks to a cheating basterd who didnt give a damn.., super bad breakeout and in all honesty thought i was havig an allergice reaction to the elastic in my underwear cuz im allergic to latex, nope it was warts... had to spend 70 bucks on treatment and attempt to "burn" them off myself, after attempting 2 or 3 times went back to a walk in and they did 3 treatments there... 7 years... not one sympton of it coming back, and to my knowledge didnt pass it to past relations.. one of my exes and i were together 4 years, he knew i had hpv, and ive never passed it to him, and we used to have sex alot, and unprotected sex.. now maybe im nieve.. but i *thought* hpv could only be passed if there is a wart present. maybe im wrong, but i dont yhink it has the same asymptomatic shedding as hsv.. theres no reason u and ur gal cant have fun be it sex or oral sex, just as long as *i think* no symptoms/bumps/discomfort is going on. Trust me if she had it shed know.. i havnt heard of anyone having hpv with no symptons, everyonr i know who has it had a breakout.. hang in there buds, no more guilt. Ee're not virgins anymore... and shit happens.. gotta learn to flush this one kay!?!?! xox

Definatly good share!!!

Yay!good for you!!

Hi, i experienced dizziness, unawareness, dissorientation and a deffinate fatigue while on my first dose of valtrex, i couldnt even drive for a couple days! That was back in jan whn i had to take it for a week .. i didnt have symptoms tho.... i had a minor ob a week ago and tookk valtrex again (500mg 2x daily for 3 days) and i barely noticed a thing... i.m.o. maybe talk to the doc who prescribed valtrex to u, and see if you need a lower dose for a while and then slowly make your way up to a reg daily suppressive dose?... I read on here a few people found it helpfull to cut the pills in half for a while. Half in am half in pm and it helped them! Hope this helps a bit! xox

Pretending is only good if you have no emotion to how it will turn out in the end. be honest with ur man, ask him how hes doin with hsv, cuz ur not feeling so great, maybe he has some suggestions? Let him know honestly how u feel about him, ask for honesty in return. good luck to you!!!

Thanks! And i totally would!... but im in b.c. canada... might be an exppensive trip for me haha

I think ur on to something about explaining u get coldsores down there. But he should know the facts too with the correct terminology... Maybe you could say something along the lines of... " hey babe! Really excited to see you soon! But i need to tell you something important about myself... have you heard of hsv? Its the virus that causes coldsores on 80% of our population. Well i have this virus too, its called hsv (1or 2), "down there" though, and i have it undercontrol, and if we decide to be intimate with eachother you should know the facts! Like theres a 4% chance of transmission female to male, and if we use condomes it cuts it in half, and i can also go on supressive therapy via antivirals which cuts it in half again! So as long as we take precautions theres only a 1% chance of transmission! I know this may seem like a lot to take in, for me its just a minor skin condition.. like a sunburn, but believe me when i say i like you, i care about you and i want you to trust me as much as i trust you! " Hope this helps a bit?? Good luck! xox

Never heard of that one yet... but im still new! I used a low percentage hydrocortizine cream.. helped a lil bit. Have you tried an epsom salt bath? aloe cream (not gel)? These help alot!!

Nothing has been taken away from you... you gained a "wingman" as dancer puts it, If it wasnt for herpes... i 1.. woulnd NOT have met my bf, 2.. would STILL be friends with complete assholes. And 3... i wouldnt feel as strong as i do now. so incase ur wondering... ive had a one nighter a month ago... AND now i have a bf, h didnt stop anything from happening... u gotta seriously look at herpes as an OPPORTUNITY to love yourself! . We have quite litterally ALL been in your shoes.. ( or a similar fit at least)... be it casual... or relationship sex, you can have whatever you want. all ya gotta do is let the person know " so... hey, i like ya, but i need to tell u something important. I have herpes, " and then add lib with facts and emotion and stuff.. it can be hard at times, but dont let h control you. You're in controll of your body mind and soul... dont let a jackass like h get the raise and bump you out of job. Stay strong man. You got this.

Yay! Super stoked for you!!!! =D

You will find that attitude! Its already in u! Just dig a lil deeper... I wasnt always strong, i still have weak moments life is an ongoing battle, do you want to lay back behind the troups? Or fight?.... fight for your right to be happy, fight for love, dont let someyhing like h control yout emotions! You're still you arent ya? Maybe now tho... a lil stronger than yesteryear..