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Oh OK so your result was 5.1. Which means your result was higher than 1.0 . So that is poitive for HSV2

He doesn't realize his behavior is making this situation 10 times harder than it should be. He is being a scaredy cat or he already knows he has it. The fact that he is having sex with someone who does indeed have HSV is good enough reason to get tested for H. In my opinion he is full of it.

@NothingGoodGetsAway Thanks!

I get what you mean

I haven't gotten any yet. I haven't need it but now I am interested in someone and I really want to just be prepared for a just in case kind of situation. I would like to have it to even make kissing less risky.

So is there some way to get medication quickly. Planned parenthood has like a month wait before I can go in and so does Fast Med. Should I set up an appontment with a OBGYN at the hospital?

Yes! This is so true and I am so thankful that I accept the reality that this is not that big of a deal! Thank you for sharing :)

@2Legit2Quit but if you look at who she told, it is all people that are close in her life. They are either her partner or her family members. That's why I was thinking it could have been a confiding in vs a gossip thing. Just a possibility

I am wishing you the best of luck! Keep us posted. We are here for you girlie ;-) XOXO

@2Legit2Quit That is very true. People often project their feelings onto something else. It is clear that @Luna1088 has to overcome anxiety and depression in general. I would say that needs to be a focus for you Luna because honestly that is much more serious than HSV. These things can get out of hand. So really take in what 2Legit said and maybe do a little self reflecting. It never hurts to analyze ourselves to find out what in our life is helping us or hindering us. Regardless though, you really need to find some kind of distraction or something that will bring you joy. I LOVE dancing and it has helped me a lot. I didn't let my diagnosis stop me. I kept dancing and it made me realize that nothing has changed. I am still me. Even though you have some annoying symptoms, you are still you. So work on being a stronger and better you :)

@Optimista I am sorry so which ones are your results for HSV1 and HSV2? For example mine are HSV1 5.00 HSV2 5.00

I know how scary that can be. However, he is showing you more and more that he is not good to you. Sometimes you just have to go for it, no matter the risk. So f*** him and his stupid threats and move on. If he tells people you have H, oh well. The reality is ALOT of people have it. Only you can take control of the situation. Does he have H?

My best advice I can give is, honesty is the BEST policy. In life we all make mistakes. We do things we are not so proud of but it takes courage to admit your wrongs. I would absolutely encourage you to tell him the truth. He may be mad. He may think a lot of things about the situation but he will respect the fact that you were honest with him. Plus this is not something you just let someone go on from, keeping your fingers crossed that he didn't contract it. That is not really fair to him. So I would say find the courage and just be honest. You were so wrapped up in him and got so caught up in your emotions that you got carried away and gave in. You wish you could have controlled yourself enough to tell him before sex but you were drinking and one thing led to another. You are sorry you didn't but you are telling him now. You are SO scared but you had to tell him. You really hope this doesn't ruin everything between you guys and hope he can forgive you. Give him some statistics on the minimal risk involved. Handle it like a champ. You got this ;-)

@WSCDancer2010 Thanks :) @Luna1088 You are making my hair fall out! I hate hearing you go through so much struggle. I really wish I could show you how much this is not going to ruin your life IF you have it. It is so minor in the grand scheme of things. It is like acne that comes and goes. It is like shingles. Which sucks but it is not life or death. Your life will go on and you will find love if you allow it! I love the saying "Keep calm and carry on". Focus on that. Keep calm and carry on. Everything is going to be alright. Your stress is making this 10 times worse than it needs to be. HSV isn't so bad but the stress mixed with it is the problem. Stress alone can literally kill you. So try to destress. Go on a walk, do some yoga, don't drink caffiene, don't eat a lot of carbs or sweets, listen to positive/relaxing music, talk to positive people, eat some soup (because there is nothing worse than trying to relax on an empty stomach) and breatheeeeeee. Set up your environment to force you to relax. That's what I do when I am stressed. It helps tremendously.

@JenPhoenix40 I have no idea of the details of your relationship with this friend and I do not know her BUT some people feel like they need to share things that are weighing on them. She might care about you so much that she just needed someone to talk to about it. Hard for us to understand, I know, but it is possible. My sister found out a friend of ours tested HIV+. She was soooo effected by it that she couldn't help but confide in myself and my other sister. She cares deeply about this girl and just needed someone to talk too. We pass zero judgement on the girl. We also know her very well and were only sad to hear this knews. Because my sister told us we were able to comfort her. Her friend still doesn't know that we know. We haven't told anyone. I can understand completely where you are coming from with your frustration with your friend. I have no idea if she is a gossip or whatever. I just wanted to offer a different perspective.

This guy is no good for you. I wish I could be there to give you support but I will try my best to do so on here. You have got to wake up and realize when someone does not deserve you. Your boyfriend is not doing what a partner does, which is to support you when you need them. You really really need him right now and he is ignoring you. What you should do is forget about him and take some time to focus on you. You are dealing with the some tough stuff. Anxiety and depression is no joke. So as a way to protect yourself, you need to separate from this guy. It will only become more and more toxic. I think H is the least of your problems right now. You need to work on inner strength and self reliance. Stop worrying about him when you need to give yourself some TLC. A great support system is like a bonus but first we all need to be able to support and love ourselves! Loving yourself is a MUST. Work on being happy. Then the right guy will come along. Until then, I strongly encourage you to focus on YOU. Forget this part-time boyfriend who always wants a day off.

Hey, so just to be clear, you have HSV1 genitally or orally?

@luna1088 This is Annab01 from ExperienceProject :) I'm so glad to see you came here (unfortunate circumstances but still glad you came here) @2Legit2Quit and @WSCDancer2010 are amazing right?! I notice that everyone is trying to tell you the same thing. The common thread is to RELAX! I know how hard it is to do that when you feel your status is in limbo but you must truly try to wipe the panic from your thought process when dealing with this. Before I was diagnosed I was somewhat paranoid myself. So I took precautions until I would eventually find out my truth. However I didn't allow it to steal my peace or my joy. You have got to get this under control. This is a test of your ability to control your emotions and an opportunity for you to see how strong YOU ARE in a difficult situation. NO ONE here will know exactly what is going on with you. We can make an educated guess but nothing will give you peace of mind except for yourself or those results. I would strongly encourage you to look at this as if you do have it already and just deal with coping with that until you do find out the truth. That is the best advice I can give. That is kind of how I went about my life before I got tested. I was thinking ok so I might have herpes.....OK...I GOT THIS AND I CAN HANDLE IT NO MATTER WHAT. I CAN HANDLE ANYTHING. There is something extremely empowering in taking control of your emotions and your life. You should work on keeping calm even when things are not in perfect balance. Stress is not helping you in any way ok. I wish I could be there for you physically to give you a big hug because I know this is weighing on you. Truly look at what has happened though....you have these kinda scary symptoms, BUT you are still alive. It didn't kill you. You are indeed ok. You can still eat, watch movies, work....and countless things! This will not ruin your life IF you have it. Life is FULL of changes and challenges. You need to build up your strength so you can face life with no fear. This is something I work on all the time. Fear has no place in this situation ok. So try your very best to conquer it! I know you can! Cheer up! Relaaaxxxx and know that we are here for you no matter what! Be brave :) Much love. XOXO

@NothingGoodGetsAway Honestly, I don't think it is anything to worry about. It takes a little more effort than that to spread it. Especially if your body has already started creating antibodies for HSV2. Don't worry your pretty little head ok :)

Being diagnosed with H is full of surprises. It is comforting to see someone accept the good that can come from this. I strive to be the same way, with any challenge in life. So happy for you :)

@2Legit2Quit Today actually :) I was feeling the most minute feeling of whatever yesterday. He literally text me write after I wrote you and we had the most playful conversation. Nothing has changed with our chemistry thus far and I am just going to relax and go with the flow.

@WCSDancer2010 Thank you! I am happy too! :) I thank my Mom everyday for how awesome and encouraging she is. She is a wise woman. Face to face was my preferred method but I was going to have to drive 4 hours to see him and my imagination ran a little bit. I was like "How horrible would it be to drive 4 hours back after rejection." lol Although I didn't feel like he would ever react in a horrible or rude way. Phone was a great option and it just felt like the right time. He has told me some secret parts of himself so I felt comfortable doing the same. I am just grateful right now. Thank you for all of the wise advice you give XOXO

@2Legit2Quit Thank you! It was actually so much easier to say it than I thought it would be.

@NothingGoodGetsAway Thank you so much. I have to admit I am still kind of nervous that he might randomly freak out lol but it is my own insecurity. I know he is so amazing and if we are meant to be together, it will be. I try my very best not to dwell on doubt and fear but hey my period just started and pms is no friend of mine haha. Thank you for sharing that letter :) No truer statement than Nothing Good Gets Away. Wonderful.

Soooooo as many of you know, I have someone I am extremely interested in. I met him when he was visiting/working here for awhile. He lives in a different state but we immediately clicked and spent the most amazzzing three days together. I was in heaven. We crossed no physical boundaries and just connected mentally and emotionally. We have maintained contact ever since and become closer and closer. I got tested when I met him because I wanted to be certain of what I was dealing with before really going for this connection. Unfortunately, I found out my ex did indeed give me H :( So naturally I was imagining countless ways of how I was going to tell him and his possible reactions. Even though I had minor doubts, my knowledge of who he is trumped it all. I knew he was a man of depth and I had a strong feeling he would accept me but you know how it is....there is always that small doubt. Well I am going to see him this weekend so I was thinking a lot yesterday about whether or not I wanted to tell him in person, over the phone, email or not at all. I drafted and edited an email several times lol but it was never good enough. My Mom told me, you need to talk to him. You guys have great communication so just tell him. So we were on the phone for a few hours last night and I felt the courage to tell him. So I did. He was so amazing it just further confirmed what I had been feeling this whole time. He truly is so amazing and I feel blessed to know him at all. He told me that he respects me more for telling him and he admires me as a woman. He doesn't feel any different about me and wants to continue getting to know me more. This doesn't change anything between us :) He actually dated a woman for a year who was H+ but he was still negative. I still want him to get tested before we go all the way. Just so we know exactly what we both have going on haha. He said who I am far outweighs this and he is sorry this happened to me. I just want to cry tears of joy because I feel so happy that he is who I thought he was. I don't know what the future holds but I am going live for today and enjoy every moment. I have faith that what is meant to be will be. I just wanted to share this to show people that a real connection will surpass any stupid stigma associated with H. True love awaits. If you are hiding from life, how will you ever find it :) Have a great day everyone. XOXO