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Let him go without them if he knows the risk and is ok with it. My husband chose the opposite and is completely fine using them and I'm not the least bit bothered by it and he's H free for 20 plus years now. It's really their choice!

Prob a slim chance then

Put him on to this website or at least give him the handout info https://herpesopportunity.com/free-ebook-signup.html

Seems I read 75% chance of transmission if you have an ob

His job, if he elects to go forward is to learn all he can about this and to comfort you ....put your mind at ease, etc. Let's see what happens.

@sadie...this is very unfortunate! Firstly, getting H even using protection. You will come to a good place with this at some point. Also, this guy may just need some time. My first disclosure was a bit uncomfortable as the guy said "well, that's something to think about." Two weeks later he said he handled that totally wrong and we ended up dating. You can see my veteran story in the veterans category. You can live a very normal life. I promise!!!

Ahh ok, makes sense. Seems there is still so much I don't know.

@optimist I completely agree here with your opinion. Makes perfect sense to me!!! I have a question. Having had this for 35 plus yrs, you would think I would know everything about the H. Asymptomatic means a person showing no symptoms, correct?? So, prior to anti viral, I was symptomatic approximately 5 times per year. So, I guess that means I was symptomatic?? I've been on anti viral for over a year now with zero ob's....does that make me asymptomatic now?? Just not sure of the exacts. I've never passed it on. Also, I have this question you may be able to answer. Skin to skin contact can transmit H, but only while shedding, correct? If you are not shedding and you have skin to skin contact you don't transmit??

@TaoOfHeaking...this Is awesome!!! Your new perspective, I mean. Get your awesome self out there....

Yeah, very possible you don't have it. Any reason to think you do??

I think it's a reaction to something. Highly unlikely H

Agree with Optimist here.....doesn't sound like herpes at all....esp with body rash and itching all over.

@Anna01 I'm so proud that you are handling things so well. Kudos to you!!! I'm just curious, did your ex use condoms at all and was he just on anti viral for outbreaks? You may need in inform him as to how to be safe from here on out with others. I mean, if he's had it 15 yrs and on anti viral full time and uses condoms, he could cut his chances slim to next to none for spreading to anyone else!

What makes you think your bf didn't have this unknowingly and gave it to you?? It's very possible. Nonetheless, you have to tell him. Hopefully, he will handle it well enough. You might tell him and it might bring about an "oh crap" I thought this rash I've had in the past was jock itch! It's happened many times. Then as you say, it could have come from your ex. You just need to pick a good time and tell your bf. He may be very supportive, caring and understanding :)

Are you thinking loss of appetite and being exhausted is from acyclovir? You could try one of the other meds. I'm not sure I've heard of those side effects from acyclovir. Just keep educating yourself and maybe find a Herpes buddy in your area through this site to help you through the rough times. It gets much better in time for most. I don't even think about it after 35 + years except helping out here. I am completely not bothered by it one bit. However, I do remember feeling down about it when I first acquired it. After you have a good disclosure, it will change how you feel. Just be good to yourself and know you are awesome!

Triumph my husband of 21 yrs is H negative. He chose condoms always and we never looked back. Oral is completely without protection and happens way more than intercourse..I left it entirely up to him as to use or not use condoms. He never ever brings up H and outside of what little info I gave him all those yrs ago, he has never looked anything up. He's kind of that guy.....if it ain't broke, don't fix!

Yes most people show symptoms 4 to 5 days post virus exposure and about 90% will do so by day 10. Some people never produce symptoms, though. You do realize your girlfriend is probably safer for you to be with than anyone else you may come in contact with for sex?? She actually knows she has H (most people don't) and is taking all precautions to keep you from contracting H. You have been tested numerous times and been clear. This should tell you how hard it really is to get H from someone who is taking every step to prevent transmission. Much less likely female to male too.

My acyclovir is 400 MG per pill. I take two per day with no probs and no ob's in over a yr

It won't get infected! It will dry up on it's own in about 10 days max...ocean shouldn't really hurt anything. Likely salt water will help dry it faster. I would suggest anti viral meds on a daily basis to stop the outbreaks. Live life and have fun!!

Well, first of all you need to find out which type of H you have. It sounds like you may have hvs1 only because it sounds as though neither of you have ever had an ob and have never had another sexual partner. Has he ever had a cold sore? If so and he performed oral sex on you it's possible he shed the virus from his mouth to your genital area. This is just my guess. It's fine to go swimming, it may be painful, but it's ok to do so. You won't spred virus this way.

I think disclosure would become obsolete. I think another STD will take its place and so on. Aids just came out of nowhere and people died....lots of people died. Now with all the drugs to keep it at bay, it's hardly ever mentioned. Crazy!

I have seen that mentioned many times on here. Many women thought they had a yeast infection when, in fact, it was H.

He should respect your request to use a condom regardless! Just because he "said" he's free of STD's doesn't mean he is!

I would suggest anti viral to take your 5 to 6 possible ob's per year to 0. It has done that for me. Why do you feel you have to tell family?? I've only told people who I plan to sleep with.

I too had constant prodrome symptoms on Valtrex and switched to Acyclovir with no side effects. Best of luck to you and your lucky sweetheart. My husband of 21 yrs does not have H, but I do (hvs2). However, he chooses to wear condoms during intercourse and none for oral so we've gone this long without him acquiring it. A huge testament to condoms use!!! I just went on antiviral meds a yr ago just to bring my 5 ob's a year to 0 and it worked!!! Not one ob in a year. Also, the fact that she's had H for so long works in her favor as well, ie less shedding.