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And alwats wear condoms!!! To start with anyway

My grandaughter (when she was 9) got a cold which was followed by a cold sore. I had never seen a cold sore on her before that day nor either of her parents. I asked her who she might know who gets cold sores and she replied "her granny." She has never had another sore and she's now married with children. I've often wondered if at some point she may unknowingly (I'm sure after 15 yrs she never even thinks about that one time) pass it to her husband. She may not even know that she could shed the virus. Just a thought!

You are freaking out way too much here. You made a mistake. It's highly unlikely you transmitted anything....hvs2 does not like the oral cavity...like 1% chance he might get it that way. Don't freak when telling him because he will freak too. It's not a big deal, don't make it one!

I'm no Dr, but your values are too low to mean positive. That's judging from what I've read

Most people who are going to show symptom will show symptoms at 4 days out from encounter. Your chances are pretty slim given he's on meds. Depends on if condoms were used. You can read the free hand out on here which gives you the chances. I would put my paycheck on it that you dont have it.

It's extremely rare to transmit hsv2 to oral. I mean like 1% chance. Just go for it!!! I've had this 35 yrs and my husband is virus free after 21 years. It is possible!!! You are much safer because you actually know you have it and can take every precaution to keep him clear. I would take anti viral daily as a supressive.

Well, you told him of your status. I would imagine if your lip was red, he could see that so if he chose to go ahead with sex and allowing the oral.....well, I wouldn't worry.

Yes, you can both perform oral on each other.....chances of either of you getting it orally is about 1%

See if you can get on anti viral daily as a suppressive (if you can't use condoms). It Will help lessen the outbreaks. However, if you've just had one outbreak, your Dr may only prescribe anti viral fifor r outbreaks only. Sometimes you have to tell them you are having outbreaks frequently so they will prescribe long term.

Don't beat yourself up over a one night stand. My gosh, it's the 21'st century!!! You used a condom which was very wise. I agree with @Jack101 odds are you you didn't get H from this encounter. It is possible, of course, but read the handout! You may have something else....anxiety can cause lots of fictitious ailments. Just trying to stay positive here.

Sweet!!! Sounds like you got a handle on it

@hippyherpy I could not agree more. It has not set me back at all in my life! I've had this for 36 years to be exact. Never passed it on! There are so many other things that can present way more difficulties/challenges etc. than a skin condition. Just look around, every 5th person is in your shoes

Well, let me start by saying you might want to get your Dr to switch you to Acyclovir. I started on valtex and it caused constant prodrome symptoms which I had never experienced in the 35 years of having this. Acyclovir gives no such symptoms for me at all. Even though they are in the same family of drug, I had totally different reaction to both and I've read the same response from some other people. Hope this helps

The risk is very, very low. Go for it!!!

Yes, that's absolutely correct.

I can't answer all your questions, however....when disclosing I would do as you mentioned above, only don't call it a disease! Just call it herpes. Most people know what it is. Don't freak when disclosing or else the "other" person will as well. Just give them the facts as you know them or better yet, direct them to this site. Now, because you are a gay male, I'm assuming anal sex most often. So, I'm wondering 1st off....were condoms used and if so, did they ever break to your knowledge? This could explain how you aquired hvs 1.

And its posdible that your present partner has it and didn't know it and may have given it to you

Hvs2 is very, very rarely transferred to the mouth. Like 1% chance. Go for it!!!

This just indicates how he would handle any other "non" serious situation. Now, had he said "I need some time"......that would have been perfectly acceptable, but "I'm out".....would have gotten "you're damn right you're out" from me!!!

I can definitely see your side as well and really hope things go in as positive direction for you both. My husband chose to use condoms for intercourse and no protection for oral which we did most often. I went on anti viral about a year and a half ago only to bring my 6 ob's per yr to zero which it did. Best wishes!!!

@anonymousprince I can tell you that I told my now husband 21 yrs ago that I had H prior to our 1st sexual encounter. There was no internet avail to us and very little info to read. He never looked any of it up, just went on what info I gave him. Never brought it up and we've been together 21 yrs! He never got tested until a little a little over a yr ago. He is negative. So, it is possible for people to know their partner has it, but yet they didn't test for it themselves. I think if you really like this girl then move forward with her. You seem so stuck on not wanting to "buy" her story. So, maybe you should just move on.

Agree

Well, if you continue to see him, tell him! Don't over dramatize the situation or else he will freak. You used protection and assuming there was no ob, the chance of transmission is minimal and even more so if you are on meds. Just explain your situation just as you did here. Be confident!

Yes, I've had it 35 yrs and still have questions

Great question! I have no idea