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@Molly I agree with Hikinggirl 100%. I don't know that I'd even email him...you did the right thing and he may just need time. I had a guy tell me "well, that's something to think about" after I disclosed. We worked together and after two weeks, he came up and said "I handled that completely wrong, can I have another chance?". We dated for about 3 months and ended up parting ways. We had great sex and are still friends to this day. I am married 20 plus yrs to a man who didnt need even one second to think about it and he is negative to this day. I have hvs2 for 30 plus yrs. He always said I'd never have to tell another person and so it holds true. However, if it turns out I ever have to disclose again, it will be just as it was with him....matter of factly "oh by the way..... and did you bring condoms"?

@nootox are you on anti vitals daily? It may be what you need to get your glands to settle or a gynecologist to have a look....as hikinggirl said above, it's never to late to journal. The anti viral daily might be your best friend. It's certainly worth a try for peace of mind and a chance at no outbreaks and may make disclosure a little easier on you.

I've experienced this exact same thing many times and no, I did not transmit. You can see my success story in veterans section. I have had tingling (possibly from nerves due to very heavy weight training) instead of H. I do get tingling a lot, but I discount it's from H as I have not had an ob in over a year and have not passed it on to my husband who does wear condoms! Hope this helps

@LostGirl29 don't despair, seroisly!!! I do understand how you feel, but ....when I told my (now husband) 20 plus years ago, I never, NEVER gave it another thought! I did my part and he chose to continue with me and to this day he is negative. If he told me tomorrow he thinks he got H from me...I would be sympathetic, of course, but he knows from knowing me that it has not stopped me from doing one darn thing and life goes on. I'm sure your guy will come around and be Just fine!!!

Take a deep breath here! First off, was he tested and negative before you? It's possible he already had this and it may just be jock itch or something else. First and foremost, you were honest right up front which gave him the choice to make a decision as to whether he wanted to continue the relationship given the risk. Can I ask if you are on anti viral daily and if you used condoms? This is just a curiosity some might have in their quest for future relationships. He will probably be just fine in a day or two. You did everything right!!!!

I've read 75% chance of transmission with outbreak, but everyone is different. If he is going to show symptoms ( some people don't) 90% of people will be symptomatic within 2 to 10 days

Yes, that's my purpose here as well. It's completely manageable in most people especially if you know you have it. Go girl and best of luck!!!

@Billysgirl I'm one who has never passed it on and my husband of 21 years does not have it. He had exactly your same thoughts on it and he didnt make a big deal out of it because, for me it's not!!! Does your bf have hvs1 or 2? This is such a good post for people who are really still depressed over their diagnosis!

@BoxerGirl....first off, he may not even have it. The odds of one sex act unprotected, female to male is slim especially if you are on valtrex and with no ob. Lots of people with H just avoid sex during ob's and that's it....and never pass it on. Hoping it turns out well all around. Try to relax a bit.....wait on his results and go from there.

I would just let it go. Terri Warren (herpes expert) says most people who are going to show symptoms, will do so in 2 to 10 days. That's not to say he didn't get it, but with condoms and anti viral and basically a one night stand....its not likely you passed it on. Is he H negative that you know of for sure

The best advice I can give if he doesn't want to wear condoms is to take anti viral daily if you can. It's less transferable female to male which has certainly been my case. No sex during ob's obviously.....listen to your body. He is aware of the risk which should take the burden from you. Remember.....stressing is not good!!! Can't remember if you said he is for certain H -, but you have to just let it go and have fun! If you stress over it and he continuously sees that, you might make him very paranoid and thus reluctant to be relaxed about it.

I took it 12 hours apart. It worked wonders for ob's.....none to be exact!! I'm good with just taking it for ob's since I'm married, have had this 35 plus yrs and hubby H negative. I just hate that my extremely thick hair has thinned, but in a way it's been kind d if nice.....less time to blow dry, straighten etc.... I still have tons of hair.

I don't think there are any real cut and dry ways to disclose. I think you handled it very well, actually. If you read hippyherpy's posts on here, you'll find he discloses all sorts of ways and most seem to work. Some people actually disclose via text. I hope she comes to realize it's not a big deal and how safe she really is with you knowing you have it. Best of luck!!!

@Bambinia3 I think you are more normal than you might think. Many, many people walk in your shoes, but don't come out for whatever reason. You sound like a good person in many ways so don't beat yourself up. I understand what you are trying to do and admire you 100% .....you do have a heart otherwise you wouldn't be trying to right the wrongs. We all have skeletons lurking within us. You have really helped a lot of people on this site so maybe a blessing in disguise!...?

I wish I could help....are you certain this is from H? Have you checked with gyno to see if it could possibly be from something else?? I wonder if vitamin B 12 might help you?

@Adrial thought you might know the answer here or could find out. I've been on acyclovir a little over a year. Works great! No ob's at all, but my hair seems to have thinned. I'm really just now noticing it due to having a ton of hair. I've stopped the meds for now and plan to just use if an ob occurs. Will my hair grow back?? Can't seem to find this answer even on Terri Warren's forum. I know hair loss is a side effect, but just wondering if it will grow back.....have had the H 35 plus yrs. Thanks to anyone who knows the answer!!!

You did the right thing. I know it's hard. I told a guy once and he said "well, that's a lot to think about". Two weeks later, he came up to me at work and said he handled that completely wrong and wanted to date. We dated approx 3 months including lots of sex and ended up parting ways due other reasons. We did, however, remain friends to this day!

What do you mean by neurologic?

I would guess old as mine was 15.2 and I've had it 35 yrs

Also, Terri Warren who is an expert on the subject says prodrome lasts a few days not months

I mix protein powder with oatmeal some mornings for a quick breakfast, but also do a pre workout meal and post workout meal with protein powder and have no issues. Been doing this for at least 15 yrs

Well, I had constant prodrome symptoms while on valtrex ie tingling, pinching, itching etc. I switched to acyclovir and it all went away

I think valaciclovir is valtrex so you need to switch to acyclovir.

She is, indeed!!!

Are you on anti viral? I took valtrex and had constant tingling....I mean months!!! I switched to acyclovir and it all went away.