Katidid

Yeah, I was on it about 3 months and had constasnt prodrome like symptoms

Husband of 21 yrs is negative and I have hvs2

I had the same problem with valtrex and switched to acyclovir

How is he handling it?? If he's understanding and has educated himself, that would sure help ease your mind.

Is it possible he has nothing and is using this as a way out of the relationship?? I'm just grasping at straws here. I'm hoping that's the case to set your mind at ease. You may never really know, but it seems if he was truly crazy about you, he'd have handled this much differently. Maybe he couldn't handle telling you he wanted out after you disclosed, so he fabricated a story. Anything is possible. Just looks like he'd have been much more diplomatic about the whole thing since you were upfront with it from the start.

Definitely breath in!!! I would bet my paycheck to transmitted nothing to him. His behavior is pretty mean if you ask me.

Consider yorself very fortunate that you got away from that punk. Good for you that you have made huge strides to correct certain behavior that you have struggled with. That's the first step. Sounds like you are on the right path and will be just fine.

Some people do say the itching went away after starting anti viral, so in answer to your question....yes, it helps most people who take it. Some, however still continue to have outbreaks regardless of anti viral

Yeah, most people who make jokes about the H probably already have it or have a great friend or family member with it and have no clue. Basically it's called ignorance really!!! I would probably be inclined to give the statistics. That's just me!

Any time!!! You can also text my inbox on here if you want to be a bit more personal. I'm glad to help any way I can. It might help you to read Hippyherpy's threads from day one. He has no problem with the ladies and he always discloses

Yes....read my 2nd post to you again. It was the first guy I disclosed to. I'm still in contact with him to this day. He came back two weeks later and wanted another chance

No, I feel like had I not done my bit of snooping and found the cream, he would have gone on as if nothing happened. Having said that, this man ended up truly caring very much about/for me and is really one of my dearest friends. His morals have changed so much over 35 yrs....we all are capable of changing if we want to! I cant imagine life without him tucked away in it. He is very happily married now to a great woman. So, again.... I'm sure this time he disclosed and found a wonderful woman who accepted the H. It happens all the time.

Sure....you can pretty well ask anything here which is so nice. My story is also in the veterans section here. My giver knew he had it. Hardly any info out there like there is today. Not even anti viral. We had been having unprotected sex for months. Then one night he said he thought he had an infection so he used a condom. Well, the condom came off inside me and I had to fish it out. It was about 4 days later I developed an open sore just inside which hurt like hell. I don't remember being sick or any other symptom other than that. I mentioned it the next time we saw each other (remember no cell phones back then) and he was just like hmm that's odd. So, I went to Dr and even the Dr couldn't see anything....really?? So I went back to Dr with a mirror and showed him. He said he didn't think it was anything to worry about. So long story short. I healed and the next ob was blisters so I knew what I had. Went through my bf's med cabinet and found the cream they prescribed for herpes back then.....my proof!!! I then confronted him and he came forth apologizing profusely. I found it in myself to forgive him and we are great friends to this day. I've disclosed twice since. 1st guy said "well, that's something to think about". Two weeks later he came back and apologized for handling it wrong and wanted another chance. We dated for about 3 months. He moved to another job and new life out of state. 2nd was my now husband of 21 yrs who is H negative still. He is a gem. Never, ever brings it up. Never made a big deal out of it. He does, however use condoms, but we have way more oral (unprotected) than anything. So life does go on and there are good men out there.

Well, not sure what to say here, but feel you deserve a response. So it looks like you are 31 so old enough to know better and you sound like you do know better. So, admitting your mistakes is part of getting on the other side of things.....so, maybe you are finally there. It's never too late! Just go forward doing the "right" thing!

@YoursTrulyB.......jeeze, one day following unprotected sex and you got it!? That, in itself, is baffling only because of the odds of "one unprotected sex act." Given his "cold" nature after you told him, he may have had an outbreak and just didn't give a shit. Had you had protected sex up to that point? Just curious. I've had H for 30 plus years and you will find someone who will love you for you and H will take a back seat!!! I promise it will happen. I know it seems like the world has caved in, but your prince is out there. Just keep reading all the positive stories here.....it will help.

You are welcome!!! I use KY most often, but have also used flavored lubes which are safe to use with condoms ie won't contribute to condom tear.

So glad you found us!!! Of course, we all know your daughter will be fine. It's a tough blow at first, but I promise she will be better than ok once she settles. She will do all the things in life she has always dreamed of. My story is in the veterans category on this site. I was just 23 when I acquired the H. I've had a fantastic 35 yrs since. I've seen much of the world, I workout 6 days a week, have a great carreer and wonderful family, have a glass of wine (or two) every night, have loads of friends, laugh a lot and most importantly have a man (who is my H negative husband for 21 years now) who I adore and vise versa. Life is good.....really good!!! Of course I have my curve balls every now and then, but it's never related the herpes. Kudos for educating yourself and realising it's really not a big deal. Your daughter is very blessed to have you as her mother!

Well, welcome and sorry you are going through this, but something tells me you will be more than fine very soon. I've had the H for 30 plus yrs. My story is in the veterans category. I've been very fortunate in that my life has been fantastic!!! H has not interfered in any way, shape or form. I had lots of outbreaks early on, but as time went on they reduced to about 5 per year. I went on acyclovir over a year ago and have had zero outbreaks. I stoped it recently (about 3 wks ago) as I feel like my hair is thinning....thank God I have a ton of very thick hair so not a big deal, just making sure it's either meds or just menopause. At any rate, the best advice I can give is to be good to yourself ie rest, exersise, diet, try not to stress etc. Be who you are!!! Herpes does not change who you are. Always be confident....put your best foot forward and never, NEVER make it a big deal when disclosing. Helping people here is the very least I can do. Have a great night!!!

No time like the present!!! Now you can take that off your plate :)

Good ole ky lube does the job and it's condom friendly

@Molly....well, now you can have two glasses of wine!!!

Is your hvs2 genital? If so, no reason to not kiss her and show your interest. Just take it day at a time and read some of the disclosures here

@Molly...kudos and a nice glass of wine is in order!

@Cecilia.... I just have a big ole "go girl" for you!!! That's right....look into that mirror and see that beautiful woman looking back! It's perfectly ok to appreciate yourself just as you are doing and why the hell not?? I take very good care of myself, workout like it's my job, have an exceptional physique, great personality (ask me lol), get lots of rest, work full time sometimes Sat and Sun too. I take time to look as nice as I can every day before I leave my house because if you look good, you feel good and when you feel good.......everyone benefits!!! Have a wonderful day and keep us posted. You own this girlfriend!!!

Yes rough sex ie friction, can bring on an outbreak. Use lube always!!!