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I did try just ten minutes of light jogging after 45 minutes of lifting semi heavy weights for 45 minutes last week, which lead to another small blister. Honestly at the rate the blisters are popping up I am starting to think they are simply multiplying by themselves. :) I got an unexpected break from work so I am now back in Spain for a few days. I have decided to go and get Valtrex tomorrow, on top of tea tree oil and coconut oil to treat it topically. I started using Syper Lysine+ a few weeks ago and initially it appeared to work, but it now seems as every new treatment I introduce to my body this damn virus manages to find a way around it.

We all do need to rant, I definitely get it. So no worries. And thanks for the compliment, I like to consider myself as a good guy. :)

Sadly I am one of those who get obs as soon as I do something cardio. Well actually, I seem to get an ob no matter what I do. :( Lifting weights appears to be fine though. It's not only about the rubbing when you run, cycle or whatever you do. It's the fact you are tiring your body, equal to being sick and weakening the immune system, and that makes it easier for the H bugger to rear its ugly head. It really sucks working out can be a trigger as a healthier body should be able to better fight off the virus, and I would want nothing else than being able to hit the gym without the fear of an ob. Or have sex. Or eat chocolate. Or live an almost normal life. Can you tell I am jaded?

Thanks for your support ladies, much appreciated. I was chatting with my soon to be ex wife a few minutes ago. I told her how it's impossible for a non H person to fathom how this condition affects people. Despite us going through a divorce she has been quite supportive through it all, and she would want me to come back to her with H and all. In fact, she sees me as a much more compassionate person post H, so I guess there is a tiny silver lining to it all. I do feel lucky that I no longer live in the US based on my new status. I think things would feel even worse if I had to deal with this crap over there due to the stigma. I have disclosed to four girls about my status. One who I have not had any sexual relations with, but we have become friends in my new home town. She doesn't see the big deal. The second I had a one night stand stand with pre H, and I'm pretty sure she would be ok with dating me as she doesn't either see it as a big deal. In fact when I told her, her exact words were "Whoever would reject you over this is an ignorant idiot". :) That comment actually made me feel quite good and boosted my confidence some. The third is my only colleague who knows, we have had a physical relationship for quite some time with some awesome, wild sex, and the only one I have had sex with post dx. She too has been very supportive and provided the physical closeness I crave to make this easier to cope with. I really miss our wild, sweaty nights from the past but I also appreciate when we just kiss and snuggle. :) Pretty sure she would be ok with this, should I want to take our relationship further. The fourth girl I disclosed to was a couple of weekends ago on a bench at 3am after only having "known" her for a few hours. We hit it off in a bar and I could tell where it was headed. In my old days it would have led to a bed friend for at least a night, but now it was so different. I had a really hard time relaxing and enjoying her company, even if there was a mutual attraction. As I am an honest guy I decided to tell her why it would not lead anywhere (I was of course having an ob), not to leave her wondering. She took it well and didn't see it as a big deal either. Had I not been having an ob I might have "pushed" things a bit harder, but I saw no point doing so. It didn't devastate me, but it sure as hell was very frustrating. The thought that one idiotic misstep on my part can cause one so much grief is what's making this so hard to accept. Had I only wrapped it up I am 99% certain I would be as ignorant about H as I was before catching it. I'm quite sure the virus entered through a cut I had on my shaft which would have been protected by a condom. The first ob was in the exact spot where the cut had been. I obviously wish the girl had told me about her status, but I blame myself more for letting the alcohol cloud my judgement that night. @earthquake_grl, I do believe flirting is allowed here. ;) NZ is one of the few places on this planet I have not visited, I've heard it's very nice. When I was recently diagnosed I started talking to an American girl on another H forum who by chance was living in the country I grew up in, but in the process of moving back to the US. We hit it off and she was the first H person I talked to directly, and she gave me much needed support. Had our timing been better and we had met in person before she left I believe there had been potential for more. She is now in a relationship with a H guy back in the US, but we still stay in touch as friends, and for support. In fact, she is a member here too after I told her about this community, but I don't think she spends that much time here anymore. Luckily she is at a point where H really doesn't cross her mind that often. I hope to be there soon myself, I refuse to accept my current status as something permanent. I just need to figure out how to get out of it. Ok, some more venting out of the way...

I got this shit in the beginning of October of 2014. After the first ob cleared I had no issues for the next three to four weeks, despite actually trying to trigger another ob to see how much body could handle. Then I had sex first time post dx which triggered a rather hefty ob with lots of little blisters. I went through a stressful period at work with lots of traveling just before Christmas and I got my third ob. After New Years I was again going through a very stressful period with my ongoing divorce and I would say since it has been constant obs for me. Surprisingly my blood pressure was considerably lower apthan it has been for the past several years when I did an annual check up last month, something I thought would be an indication of my stress level being lower. I guess not. I am a very healthy individual, eat healthy and generally quite fit for an almost 40 year, old so I really don't know what's going on. It's very demoralizing to wake up and see a new little blister almost daily. Luckily I am (despite this shit) a self confident guy, but I don't know for how much longer I can take this. I can't even get on the treadmill in an effort to be even healthier without getting an ob. How frustrating is that? I am SO disappointed in how my body deals with this, despite me trying to really take precautions. I have not taken any antivirals up to this point, but I had some acyclovir left from a prescription my doc prescribed last year and the last couple of days I have started taking them. Hard to say if they do me any good, I still get new blisters. Once these are out I will get on Valtrex as it's easibly attainable in the country where I live, even without a prescription. I feel as they are my last chance at living a somewhat normal life with this condition. If they don't help, well, then I really don't know what to do. I realize I am still in the first year, but the fact that it feels as it's only getting worse and that almost everything I do is causing an ob is very difficult. Yesterday I was out walking the streets of Paris all afternoon, and sure enough, when I got back I had another little sucker on my balls. An area where I actually up until last week didn't have any issues with. My obs were always on the sgphaft, which has now been clear for a while. The only type of prodome I've had lately is some tension in the left lymph node in the groin area. For a while I felt a lot of tension in the area of the lower stomach/just above the pubic area, but that appears to have subsided. Something I see as a good sign. I no longer really seem to have any nerve issues, which is also good. It's really the constant recurring blisters that are driving me nuts. I am getting a lot of interest from the ladies on the (non H) dating site I am on, but it is so hard knowing that I have this dirty little secret. I don't personally feel dirty, but it's still a dirty little secret. I really could live with the fact that I have H if it weren't for all of these obs, but having a constant reminder is killing me. For those who complain how it's a constant reminder when taking that blue pill every day, count yourself very lucky. That sure as hell beats what some of us are going through. When I first read about others who were having constant obs I though to myself, "Well, that sure as hell aint gonna be me". Now thatI am one of them, I can really sympathize with what they are going through. I can definitely see how a less confident person would have a very hard time dealing with this. This turned into a long rant, but I am at whits end, I really don't know what to do. I am desperate for any suggestions you guys may have.

Congrats on getting groovy again! You say the irritation is not from H. Are you sure about that? The friction from sex is a well known trigger for some. Happened to me (guy) first time I had sex after dx. Lube and going slower may alleviate that, if that is indeed the cause of your irritation.

Sorry you came across this jerk. As Dancer would say, "your wingman/woman just helped you dodge a bullet". This guy isn't worth the grief you are having over him. Only a coward of a man would text you with a message like that. Move on and find someone who deserves you. It's really that simple.

4000 months?!?=333 years. Not sure I want to get THAT old. Lol..I will admit I am not the best at math, but even I caught that.

What type do you have? If HSV1 it's quite common to only have one ob, and definitely less than us suckers with HSV2. Count yourself as very lucky if your body can handle stress without H flaring up. I am too going through a very stressful period in my life and have had almost back to back ob's for a couple of months. That itself adds to the stress, so it's like a viscous cycle. Fortunately things seems to have quietened down for me as my stress level has been somewhat lower, and I sure hope it stays that way.

I guess to us in the know what is being said is not really anything new, but it's nice to see the issue getting some attention. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/03/herpes-vaccine_n_6791538.html

I am pretty sure I have been getting obs from pretty intense 30 minute sessions on the treadmill, but nothing from lifting weights. I was diagnosed back in October. Granted, while I was trying the treadmill sessions I was in a quite stressful situation due to my personal life, so that may have played a roll too. I really hope that eventually I will be able to hit the treadmill again at full speed wihout any issues. H is so annoying that we sometimes can't do things that makes the body and mind feel better, such as working out, and having sex. Not necessarily at the same time though. :) As for drinks I haven't really had any issues, although I initially stayed away from it too based on what I had read about it potentially causing obs. Just ease into it and drink in moderation, as one should anyways.

I have used a zinc sulfate topical creme (Kirkman brand) on the spots I have had on my shaft, but I guess that has rubbed against the sack. I normally let things air for a good while after applying the creme, but eventually I of course have to pull up my paints and then it rubs. There is no shedding on the shaft. I am pretty sure I found the link to the creme on this site.

I am currently going through an ob (AGAIN :( ) and for the second time during an ob I am literally shedding skin (like a snake) from an area on my ball sack. I have two small lesions on the sack which have now both crusted, but neither of them are in the actual area where I am now shedding the skin. At first the skin goes dry, and then it eventually starts to peel off. I'm just wondering if this is something other guys have experienced too.

Is there a specific DMSO product one should look for? Links?

Should of course have been "peace" of mind above. Lol

Pre diagnose I initially hoped that my herpes was actually Chancroid. As you probably know Chancroid is treatable with antibiotics. My H started as one, big single "crater" looking ulcer. The research I did on it seemed to indicate it normally only shows up as one sore, not in a cluster like H usually is. A few days later I did get the multiple smaller blisters and that's when I was pretty certain it was H. I would have taken Chancroid over H any day, but I wasn't so lucky. A diagnose should bring you piece of mind, even if you do turn out having H. Let us know how it turns out.

Cool mom you've got there. Sounds like a keeper. Lol. Having a friend with that kind of experience must be an "awesome" way to start this journey. It's quite clear you will be just fine, the road might just not be perfectly straight all the time. But what road is?

Hi, Sorry to hear about your diagnose, but welcome to our community. I am in a very similar situation to you as far as catching this while being separated. We are even about the same age. I was looking forward finding a new mate, but H has definitely put a stick in my spokes. I know I can still find someone really great who accepts H, I may just have to work a little harder at it now. By the way, 8.1 is quite a high number and shows you have had the virus for some time. Any chance your husband may be the giver? It's not unheard of the virus staying in hiding in some people for as many as 20 years. Apart from my initial ob I have decided to stay off any meds until I am in a sexual relationship again. I also want my body to build as many antibodies as possible, but since you already have a high count it may not matter that much for you. You taking valtrex may simply reduce shedding, more so than preventing actual obs. Instead of meds I take Super Lysine, zinc tablets, C vitamins and olive leaf extract. It has not kept me from getting reoccurring ob's, which I mostly thank my divorce for as we are in the very stressful final stage of things, but maybe it would be even worse if I didn't take these supplements. Besides, these supplements are all good for your immune system anyways so they won't do any harm. As far as excercise I have had some bad luck getting obs after exhausting my body. I am hoping that once I put this stressful period of my life behind me, and fiving my body some more time to adjust to the virus, that heavy exercise will not be an issue for me. Best of luck!

It sounds like the friction from the sex may have triggered your first ob. The first time I had sex after my initial ob I had my second ob, if that makes sense. H often doesn't like rough, unlubed sex initially while the body is building up its defense to the virus. If it makes you feel any better, I had unprotected sex twice between being unknowingly exposed to H and realizing I had it. That girl did not get it, and we have even had sex a couple of times after I was diagnosed. Your sex life is not at all over, you just have to make some adjustments in how you go about sex. Not always a bad thing.

Hi and welcome Jordan, Sorry to hear that you are in such despair over this. As has already been said, it will pass and get better. You have already taken the first step towards normalcy by joining this site. You will be well taken care of here by some very considerate and caring people. It will be a process to get through this, we have all been there, and we have all gotten through it. I am only at the four month mark and doing a lot better now, but I definitely have my down days. It's only natural. I think the best thing for you right now is to try and get hold of both of the girls you have been with recently. Maybe the first girl already had H but never told you, and now she is too ashamed to talk to you. The complete opposite of what is actually going through your mind right now. And maybe the second girl did not get it after all. Honestly, you having your first ob two days after having sex with her sounds a bit of a coincidence. Are you 100% certain you were her first? Just trying to have you look at it from different angles. As difficult as it may be, you really need to do your best to find out the answer to these two questions. It does you no good to feel guilty over something which may actually not be the case. The truth shall set you free. As earthquake _grl said, if at all possible, confide in someone who knows you well and who you trust and you feel comfortable about. It will do wonders for you having a "live" person to talk to. Best of luck buddy..

@ivoryrain I have read here that water based lube is recommend. It seems like you have had good luck with silicone based too though. Without trying to hijack this thread, does anyone else have an input on this?

Hi, First of all I'm a guy, so a bit of a difference there. ;) How long has it been since your dx? Maybe you need to give your body more time to get the virus under control. The first time I had sex post dx (6 weeks post) I had an ob which had many more blisters than my initial ob, but it subsided a lot quicker. I was rather crushed, as I like you, was able to eat anything, drink alcohol and handle stress without any obs. I felt doomed to a life without sex, or sex followed with an ob preventing me from having sex again for a while. Fast forward almost three months and I had the pleasure of having sex again. This time I took other's advice and avoided rough sex, deliberately kept the act shorther than I normally would (sucks, but at least I was getting some) and used lots of lube. As much as I enjoyed having sex again I was actually more interested to see how I would react. Honestly I can't tell you for sure if I passed the test or not. I did have a couple of minor blisters pop up, but honestly I think (and hope) this was due to heavy exercise the day following having sex. The previous week I had been on the treadmill several times and I kept getting small blisters throughout that week, so hopefully my obs were due to the exercise. I can live without being on the treadmill for now, but no sex is a more difficult pill to swallow. I have heard of people getting obs from the actual orgasm and not the sex it self, as an orgasm triggers certain hormones which causes obs. I would guess though that in most cases it is the friction which is the cause, and not the orgasm. I suggest you go real gently next time and use lots of lube. A steamy foreplay may help things out too as you will be more relaxed. I hope this helps you and that you can soon enjoy ob free sex again.

My only occasional tingling (which has recently seemed to have further subsided) is in my lower abdomen/above the crotch area, while my obs are on the shaft. Some of my lesions are ever so sore to the touch, but I have to visually inspect things to know whether or not I have an ob, no pain, including my initial ob. During my initial ob I had nerve pains in my left leg and buttock for about three weeks or so, before it went away. Now I can feel a slight sensation in my left leg every now and then, but it only lasts for a brief moment.

I am 4+ months post dx and only took Valtrex during my initial ob as I want to let my body to fight it initialliy on its own as much as possible, even during obs. I don't suffer physically during an ob, but if you do, it might be good to go on meds during an ob. I am currently not in a relationship. Whether or not my method is better than the options, I really don't know, but I figured it can't hurt to try.

Nice story and smart friend you have there. Any chance you can disclose your new "home" country? I too have recently moved to a new country and the two girls I have told there (no sex involved) have both had good reactions, similar to your friend's. Didn't see the big deal about it.