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Yeah, but I don't think that can be from herpes, but I could be wrong. . High inflammation is usually a sign of autoimmune issues. Mine was high as well. So your rheumatologist didn't just put you in for a full panel all at once? Did she say anything else about what could be going on? Did she say anything about the herpes?

Well, there's a Chance that your partner gave this to you. If he's the only person you've been sleeping w as of recent. Well, the chance of him catching it, that's if he doesn't already have it, is pretty high since you're having an active OB, but doesn't necessarily mean he will get it. Having him get a blood test immediately, will be very telling. If he tests positive already, he was likely a carrier. You didn't mention if you were swabbed, the type and if you had blood drawn? If you had blood drawn and it comes back negative, it's a new infection. If it comes back positive, then it's an infection older than 4 months. Does he get cold sores? Me personally, I didn't like tea tree oil from the smell and the burning. What I found from everything I've tried that works best for me is Epsom salt baths and spraying bactine spray on it daily, multiple times. Bactine has numbing agents in it. It will keep it clean and dry it out. As for the meds, it depends if things clear up and you don't have recurrents immediately. If he's negative, then you may wanna be on daily suppression to minimize the risk of transmission. You can leave the baking soda on. There's no telling why H breaks out where it does. I have broken out all over my entire anogenital region. Since it infects the sacral ganglia, it can travel down to any of the peripheral sensory nerves that supply the anogenital region. For some people, they get recurrents in the same places. For me, it can be consistent for a few months and then boom, somewhere knew all of a sudden. Lmao... That comment about baking soda on your asshole was funny. I would wait to shave, especially if this is a new infection, because you can spread it around until you have antibodies. No, you should refrain from sex until all signs and symptoms are gone. Usually the first OB is about two weeks, some take longer, some only take a week. Everyone is different. Just relax and take a deep breath, you're going to be OK. We all have been through the first phase of this and it seems scary and you feel sad, dirty and a whole bunch of other unnecessary emotions, which is totally normal. You won't stay feeling this way. We're here for you! Hugs!

Sounds like your typical jaded doctor... Her thinking sucks... That's my opinion.

Well if they diagnose you w fibromyalgia, this is used to treat it as well and you could request it then. If you go o a DO or a wellness center that doesn't take insurance, they will prescribe it and it's a cheap drug; which is a good things, because insurance doesn't cover it. It like 45 dollars for a month's supply.

Yes, it would be nice not to have it, but it would also be nice not to have my autoimmune disease's and depression. We are humans, we're all going to be inflicted w multiple things we don't want, so I don't sit in that area of wishing I didn't have it. It's a waste of time. What's done is done. My best guy friend was w his ex for 7yrs and didn't get it. There have been people married 25-30yrs who never passed it.

Nope and @adrial and @wcadancer2010 have broken down why the statistics don't work like that. Those numbers are based on having sex like 3xs a week for a yr, so that's why you're not looking at the statistics properly. There's so many caveats to how they got these numbers.

@jon2222 so you view a 90% chance of NOT transmitting as minimal?

Well take a deep breath and relax, we can't be sure if that just yet. Next time you have something come out, go to planned parenthood. Unfortunately, you're going to need to wait at least another 2 months at a minimum of a blood test. Don't worry about the partner thing until you get there. This is something I learned the hard way w stressing about it. I had 7 friends w H before I got it and 5 are married, one married twice and one in 9yrs never was rejected. This fear is an irrational one and not something to worry about, until you are at the place to move forward sexually w a partner and need to disclose.

Well it's all relative right? Depends on the person. If you look at it, like how say ground beef is marketed, they found that people are more drawn to the meat by saying it's 90% lean for example. Vs saying only 10% fat. So you can only answer that question yourself really. Do you think a 90% chance of not transmitting it is high risk?

Yeah it's been so long I forget how it felt during my primary in detail. I had a strange feeling in my bladder, but I wasn't able to void completly, which H can cause

I have been on it for a week and 2 n half weeks now and started only at .5mlg, which from what they say, you don't truly see improvement it doing anything until 1.5mlgs and I'm going up .5lmg every two weeks. My doc has never prescribed it, so he's being overly cautious. I have been off valtrex for a month now. I've had a couple mild obs, but less than what I had on valtrex. Mainly just bumps on my buttock. It's not long enough on it yet, to really give you a good answer, but I will keep you up to date I. How it goes. I am hopeful, as I read a study of it being used to treat heroestxister and there was huge improvement in it. Optimal dose is 4?5mlgs, so I got a long way to go until I get there, because if the way he's prescribing it, which pisses me off. I think he just wants me to come in for the money, because this drug is nontoxic and has no bad side effects, other than it can cause insomnia, which has been an issue for me. I was up till 4 last night.

You sound like you're in to something @optimist

I hear ya girl... I'm the same way .

Yes, for some it can take longer ... Dies it feel like a UTI, cause what you described sounds like one.. Do you feel like you're having trouble voiding at all.

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear you going through this. I know all too well how you feel, like most of us on here. I know it doesn't seem like it's ever going to end, but know that it will. I know you're fearing it'll be like this next time and the following times and it won't. It' the most painful the first two weeks, then gets better. Take Epsom salt baths as much as possible w a lot of salt. Also purchase Bactine spray, it has a numbing agent in it and helps clean it and dry it out. Others have spread their labia and didn't have pain when urinating. I myself and others said it helped too, to at least coat the sores w Vaseline around the opening to urinate and were able to w out pain. Take 800mlgs of motrin every four hrs and get an ice pack wrapped in paper towels for when you're lying down. Unfortunately for the primary z there is only so much you can do and you just have to ride it out. Hang in there.

It will change .. We really do get caught up in the stigma too much and obsess about it the first several months w it. Just be patient w yourself.

Well you can mitigate that assumption, by having your future partners get tested before sex. It makes total sense how you're feeling and we all struggle w the acceptance of it. That will pass. Just hang in there. Hugs!

Whaaat tthheee ffuuccckk? Your doctor is a fucking idiot! She put you in for the completely wrong test! Wooowww! This is a first for me! @wcadancer2010 can you believe her doc actually put her in for the human herpes virus 6? Ok, first off, everyone gets infected w HH6 as babies. I'd come up positive for that too if I tested. Secondly, you need to go to planned parenthood to be tested when you reach your 3-4 month mark post exposure, unless you have an ob before then, you cna go to PP and be swabbed. Nope, nothing to worry about. We are all infected w several herpes viruses by the time we're adults. Even if you never had mono before, I promise you have a 98% chance of having antibodies to it. That's called EBV, human Herpes 4. HH6 they don't know as much about and how if later in life it causes any issues. It infects us as babies and then goes dormant and that one can be transmitted by sneezes for example I believe... That one and CMV I believe can. Bodily secretions that is. Most of us will be infected w the following by the time we're adults: HSV 1, VZV aka chicken pox/Herpes zoster when it reactivates as an adult, EBV aka mono, CMV, HH6, & HH7. You have nothing to worry about.

Yeah, I had that crawling sensation for a looonnggg time all over my anogenital region. I even explained it in a very strange example to my best friend. I said you know how mosquito larve looks the way it moves in the water? I said I feel like it's a big doing that in my nerves... She was like eewww... Hahaha..to me, that was the grosseat feeling and made me feel dirty. I couldn't even be sure the last I had that. I had it all over my anogenital region for like 7-9 months and then it stopped, but I continued w other strange paresthesia, like random pins and needles, burning, etc That would last for a few seconds. I even would get these little tivklingtflutter sensations on my buttock and back of thighs that would make me itch. Now I only get the occasional pins/needles, to gking onky happens on my right side on bottom inner buttock and sometimes inner groin crease and rarely that flutter tickle feeling on the back of my legs... This virus is so weird. I never got stinging nerve pain in my knees that was sporadic, until several months ago.. Thenit stopped for a month and then I had it yesterday. Some people's nerves are more affected by H than most, so I feel your pain. That crawling sensation wont last, don't worry. Ok, everyone has that fear when they first get H and I promise you, it's not the case. I was the EXACT same way... I had 7 gfs w H before I got it. 5 are married and some have kids, one has never been rejected in the 9yrs she's had it. I've disclosed twice and sorta a third time, but that's hard to explain the story behind that, but it was clear he would accept it too, but he was just soneone I wouldn't want to be w and neither were the other two I disclosed to. That feeling will pass and it's the strongest when you're still having symptoms. You're at the age or rather close to it, that 1 out of 2 women have genital herpes, so therw will be men you meet who have already come across others who had it and men at your age, are more likely to have it as well. Right now, just worry about the day your present in when it comes to H. It is one of the biggest wastes of time to worry about and I've learned that dating w H. H is going to help you stop picking the wrong dudes, by not allowong your hormones and psychical attraction to run the show. You'll be less likely to turn a blind eye to red flags, as that's been the case for me. Usually by week 3-4, I find that the dude is not right for me, before I even had to disclose. That made me realize how much I was wasting my time obsessing about disclosure, because you usually will notice things about soneone you don't like and are seal breakers, when you know sex is off the table for some time . The second guy I disclosed to thought I made the biggest deal out if disclosing and after I did, he sent me this video and said this is you... Lol... Hopefully it can put a smile on your face and put it into perspective for you. You're over thinking .. JUST. DON'T. DO. IT.. lol..

So did you tell her you think that's what it is? That's a little odd she won't get tested, if I may say. How long have you had H now? Do you know what your triggers may be? Well I too had the same problem as you, even a yr n half in. I'll not taken meda for a month this Friday and I'd say it's the least amount of symptoms I've ever had. I have a single bump now under my butt cheek... I started a drug for my autoimmune diseases and it's supposed to boost and modulate your immune system. It has even been used to help treat Herpes zoster and genital herpes unable to be controlled through meds. I have been on this drug for less than 3 weeks and so far so good. I'll keep you abreast w how it works out for me, to see if it's something you can look into yourself. It is a very cheap drug. Called LDN. Well, if your Gd doesn't wanna do anything about it, there's not much H you can do.. I'd think k it would be more likely to breakout on the mouth, rather than just the chin. Well, you can lead the horse to the water, but you can't force it to drink.

I agree w @wcsdancer2010 , something seems off and maybe H made the blinders come off. Something to think about. V

The thought of him cheating never popped up in my head this entire thread and the first you're mentioning it. I don't think that's the case at all. I just think he gets cold sores like most everyone else gets and it was likely an accident. I think you may have much more to think about in the relationship than herpes, I wouldn't allow this to be the driving force since it can happen to anyone w cold sores and the ignorance that surrounds it.... People still don't believe cold sores are herpes. I don't think I've ever heard of the feeling like something is on my ass? Lol... Do your mean like a crawling sensation under your skin?

Yup, wrong test! Completely wrong test. It doesn't mean you have herpes type 6, that is the value. If you have HSV 1, it will produce a false positive for HSV 2. So you need a type specific IgG test in 3 months.

That is so messed up... Just disgusting...glad she was caught

That means less than .90 ... .90-1.10 is a positive result. So when it uses this symbol: < , it means less .. So negative result.