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This is how I look at it. We meet people and despite the pain they put us through we do learn! We learn what we seek in a partner and what the warning signs! We do grow! It it might be just be paranoia and I don’t want to scare you but the virus does sit in your spinal column... many people have talked about how they legs can be tingly and their butt hurt a little bit. As far as the peeing I’m not 100% sure. It could even be a UTI. You wont end up alone. My sister has it and she’s currently in a relationship. A family friend has it and she’s married with three kids. Finding someone does happen it just takes time, unfortunately! If you do end up having it you please let us know. Also I suggest you deal with the trauma before even searching, take as much time as you need. I didn’t do that and ended up getting hurt A LOT!

Since the meds worked for the bacterial that’s probably what it is. You might need to change your diet.

I have only had one outbreak, my initial. I have had it for almost a year and I have type 1

Not that I’m aware of. Granted I haven’t had much sex with other guys. And the sex I have had except one partner has been protected sex.

Hey there! I’m from Alabama so a buddy here would be nice if not I have a Snapchat that I can share. I already have one buddy but he’s basically got things figured out almost. I can help but also need help sometimes. Male or female it doesn’t matter to me. I’m 22 years old. And I have type one oral and genital herpes. I hope to hear from you soon! 🤗🤗🤗

Just because you’ve never had symptoms doesn’t mean the risk is low. By now he probably has it. But if he doesn’t care than more power to the both of you. Please know though that you still shed just as much as someone who has outbreaks all the time. Just in case wish I hope you two the best of luck but if it doesn’t work out please know this so that you can be informative to your next partner and have him do extensive research!

There is no cure! People who say there is are liars! The virus is constantly mutating and changing for there to ever be a cure! It’s time we all accept it and try to move forward instead then harping on this. It is what it is! We are all missing out on life due to the fact that we have herpes!

It is normal and I’ll tell you why! Due to stress, hormonal imbalance, new diets, and new lifestyles your discharge can change! Does it have a smell to it? How is it different? Surprisingly herpes is rather simple in the sense that it only causes rashes, blisters, itchiness, flulike symptoms and such. The symptoms do not change from those.

Have you ever had cold sores? I’m not a doctor but chances are you just have it orally. To start off with! You are not alone! You aren’t. The creator of this forum is man who has genital herpes. I’ve spoken with several men who have this std. By panicking you are only causing trauma to your body. I know it’s hard not to think about but chances are it is just oral and it really isn’t that big of a deal. If you had an outbreak I promise you, you would know.

If you wear a condom he should be fine! Also if you get on the medication it reduces shedding by 94%. A little fun fact men are less likely to get the std. They definitely can but woman are more likely to get it due to our anatomy. Without an outbreak technically you don’t know. You could have type one and type two genitally or orally or one in either place. I suggest if you give him a blowjob he wears a condom! I have type one orally and genitally but I have never given anyone herpes with my mouth. If I have a cold sore I don’t touch anyone. But otherwise they’ve been safe.

First of all, YOU ARENT ALONE! That’s the first thing you need to understand! Everyone here on this website has it! Dont panic don’t stress! There’s no point because technically you don’t know if he has anything! I do suggest you get rid of him! You can’t give your daughter herpes! It’s damn near impossible. Just to let you know that doesn’t sound like herpes or any std that I am aware of. Please dont let this defeat you! Woman are ten times more likely to show symptoms so by now especially under all the stres you’ve put yourself under you probably would have had an outbreak! If you can’t fight for yourself right now I suggest you fight for your daughter. Have you gone to a doctor?

Please! please! Please go to therapy! PLEASE! It helps so much! My best advice is to go as often as permitted by either insurance or your bank account. I have forgiven the guy that gave it to me and I met a guy who didn’t care and we had unprotected sex a few times. I wasn’t on medication so chances are I gave it to him, but maybe not! He made the choice! He did the research and I was open and honest, so yea I don’t blame myself for that! HIV DOES NOT HAVE A CURE! Please please please go seek help! It’ll help you but you have to consistent! Make sure you find someone you are comfortable with! Please! also you didn’t cause harm! You didn’t know and that isn’t your fault! That supposed nice guy wasn’t a nice guy! A nice guy on the first date never would have gotten drunk! And a nice guy never would have asked to come in your room the first date!!! You definitely need to learn to love yourself and so do I! It’s an uphill battle but definitely worth it! Please find someone to talk to! If your goal is to forget your trauma than therapy won’t help you. The only thing therapy will do is help you learn how to cope and move on and forgive!

First thing first the virus only targets the area it’s been spread to. So if you have genital herpes it’ll only target that area. Second you are allowing this stupid virus to consume you and take over your life! Stop! The stress is the only thing causing your nails to become weaker! The sugar thing might be serious and you need to go to a doctor very soon to talk to them about that. Your body isn’t accpeting the sugar for some reason and that’s a problem! You are so strong because you have survived through this virus! The worst thing you can do is let it take over your life! It’s not worth it! Please give yourself the benefit of the doubt you’ve survived you’re a warrior! You’re beautiful and you got this! Don’t let it beat you! How long have you had had it and what type do you have?

What is the reason you got tested? Have you ever had a cold sore? I never got a blood test because I actually had an outbreak. I have type one orally and genitally so the blood test wouldn’t have helped me due to it not telling me where or that I have it in both places. Have you talked to your doctor? I haven’t done research in awhile but I thought the number is generally higher if you’ve had an outbreak. Basically what they are doing is looking for antibodies. The more antibodies you have the higher chance your body has to fight off the virus.

Yea condoms should always be used! Unfortunately this stupid virus sheds and it sheds whenever it wants... due to lack of research we have no idea when we shed. I’ve had one outbreak and it’s almost been a year, but I know since I have the virus I’m still contagious. I have ave type one genital and oral so I really don’t care especially if it’s someone who has type one, but if you do not! Please be safe!

Both!!!!!!! It is both! I have both oral and genital. And no I didn’t give it to myself. They can be interchanged and you can get both in the same place! You can have genital type one and two and oral type one and two! I suggest the next time a bump appears in your mouth PLEASE go to your doctor and let them take a sample that way you’ll know for sure! BLOOD TESTS aren’t accurate all the time! It will not differentiate between your mouth and genita because where ever you get the virus it’s the same strain. One and two are slightly different!

Oh also you can get both HSV- 1 and 2 both orally and genitally!

Men rarely show symptoms that they have herpes. You could have been carrying it for awhile before you even got symptoms. He had no symptoms and he believes he still doesn’t have it. I don’t like when a guy goes down on me so there is no way I could have gotten it orally. Supposedly it is rare, I’ve no idea though. All I know is I have it and my doctors didn’t say that it was rare or anything.

I’m sorry that’s not true! I have had HSV-1 orally since I was a little girl then almost a year ago I got HSV-1 genitally!

Let me tell you this! Women are more likely to get the std then men! It’s due to the way we were built. Condoms are necessary unless your partner doesn’t care! There is also medicine to help with shedding! I used a condom with a guy but we did a little rubbing before hand and bam I got it! Good news though people with HSV1 don’t have as many outbreaks as HSV 2. I have one as well. I’ve only had my initial and I haven’t had anymore. being healthy and doing stuff to lower your stress will help you avoid having outbreaks! Go back to your doctor! I have lychansclerosis and chronic yeast infections so it’s hard to separate, but definitely keep going back to your doctor! Or if you aren’t comfortable or if they seem stupid please find another one! If you are taking the pills to get rid of it it should be gone! Your outbreak should have been over and the virus put at bay! Let me know if you have more question!

Let me tell you guys! NO ONE should ever make us want to hide! NO ONE should have that power! We have it and that is that! I understand the fear, but I’ve also had a lot of guys be okay with it. Just don’t let Herpes drag you down it should have that power over you! I know it’s hard but if you need to talk let me know! @alllgood please please please do it when you are ready! I put myself out there because I want it to be normalized! 1 in 6 people have herpes. And 3 million people get diagnosed with it every year! I refuse to let assholes drag me down! Please don’t let this scare you! I met a man who was okay with it. He did his research and was perfectly fine with it... he turned out to be an asshole for different reasons, but he was cool with the herpes. Let me know if you have questions

So I haven’t been on here in awhile and I probably should get back on. Most days I forget I even have herpes and as my year mark gets closer I feel more and more empowered. That it will be okay! That people will understand. That men won’t always reject me! Unfortunately, I just had a relapse in my self confidence. Out of boredom I got back on tinder. I’ve been taking a break due to some other issues. Either way I thought why not just talk to men see how that goes. Well as per usual I put on my bio that I have Genital HSV-1.. I felt it was easier that way because at least I won’t know they are rejecting me... Well tonight I was swiping and I matched with this guy. First thing he said is, “is that a joke?” And I relied, “I’m sorry?” and he said, “your bio. What you have on there is that a joke?” And I said, “no it isn’t I do have genital herpes.” He basically swiped right to make sure I wasn’t doing some sick joke and bold faced rejected me! Then he had the nerve to educate me on herpes then blocked me! What animal would do that?! Do these people not understand how much pain we are in? How much courage and effort and will power it takes to put ourselves out there!? What is wrong with them!? I’m sorry I just need some support and to talk to someone about it. Thank you for reading!

Let me give you advice! If you want to date then go for it! Post pictures be involved put your location. I have had a lot of support and luck by being honest on my tinder account I actually have a date tomorrow. You have to be semi okay with your diagnosis. Message me if you need help!

I have HSV1 oral and genital. It’s more rare to get HSV1 genital then it is to get HSV-2. That’s what I was trying to say

So HSV-1 is actually harder and more rare then HSV-2... I use H-positive and positive singles, but they suck so much! It’s actually painful how much they suck. They also want a large amount of money per month to even message people.