Neverwouldathought

I wish I was doing well. But I’m smart enough to know that storms end and clouds clear. Just gotta wait it out and push through. Sink or swim. Two options. Hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel but I know that eventually there will be relief and rest from all this horrible anxiety and pain. It’s so hard being alone and scared but that Marley quote is spot on. Same with friends. It’s times like these where true friends come out of the woodwork and make it clear who they are and are not. the whole thing sucks. That needs to be accepted and embraced. Sometimes things just suck and are completely devastating. Embrace it. Be sad, destroyed, feel hopeless. It’s a starting point. But be strong, be tough and keep swimming. Can’t get to shore unless you do.

I share your pain. 40yo and contracted this in the spring. I’m petrified. I know things will eventually be OK somehow. I just can’t see it right now. All we can do is put 1 foot in front of the other. We have to be strong, get up and face the day. Pull ourselves up, find a way to eat (granola bars, protein shake, fruit) force it down. Make it happen. When it rains it pours but the sun will come out again. It’s Inevitable. Hang on tight and keep fighting.

From the research I have done, one out of six people has hsv2. And 80% of the people that have it don’t even know. Asymptomatic… That’s a lot of people.

If you both have it there is nothing to be concerned about. You can’t re-catch it.

Currently single and not feeling too great lately. Dating is hard enough but now when I finally do meet a stranger which will probably take forever, I have to tell them about HSV2. I expect that to be quite a problem for me. Anyways, I was just hoping that people could drop some facts about HSV2 to cheer me up. Really bummed out 🙁 I had everything going for me and now I am cursed.

Thanks again so much. It gives me a little hope. I’m sorry about your husband’s passing.

Thank you both so much! What sites did you use? Are they private at all? I can imagine putting up pictures of myself.

I am absolutely terrified right now. I feel incredibly alone and destroyed. I was diagnosed with HSV2 few months ago. It’s literally been a nightmare. I just broke up with the one who gave it to me. She moved out. Now, here I am feeling completely hopeless and cursed. Although I’m not ready to start dating yet I was wondering if anybody had any experiences with HSV dating websites or apps. I need hope!!!! I guess I’m just looking for some support and maybe some advice?

39 year old male from MA. going through a tough time. Diagnosed a few months ago with HSV-2. Feeling very lonely and hopeless but doing my best. Would be great to have someone to talk to you who understands with this is like…

Ibuprofen and sweatpants. my first outbreak was back in April. It lasted quite a while. The healing process for the first one was kind of lengthy. Maybe two weeks. After a few days of the scabs things seem to simmer down. Still pretty uncomfortable. I had my second outbreak about two weeks ago. It was two very tiny blisters and then a scab for a few days. The second one was so minimal. Hopefully no more for a while! It sucks.

Bottom line, get a blood test. If it comes back negative there’s a very good chance you just contracted this. Sometimes for people who have not had an outbreak for a very very long time, the blood test can come back negative. However, because you just had an outbreak, if there are no antibodies, the odds are you just got it. Like within a few months.

I had my first outbreak in early April. Went and got swab and blood test right in the middle of the whole ordeal. Swab came back positive, blood was negative which left me pretty much certain I had JUST contracted it… my understanding is that on average it takes roughly 3 month’s for you to build enough antibodies in the blood to test positive after contracting it. I’d say, definitely get the blood test ASAP. It won’t 100% answer all of your questions but may help to be a peice of the puzzle for you… good luck and sorry you are going through this. It sucks.

No I don’t take daily meds. Took the 10 day prescription and that was it. Zero issues for about a month now. I really hope it stays that way. Thank you for sharing your experience. I will always have this but the reminders would be really nice to avoid.

You just don’t know. However, you both already have it. It’s almost like a wait and see kind of situation. If he decides to come out downstairs, that is where you can expect to have reoccurring issues, if he decides to come out around your mouth, once again, That’s where you can expect to have outbreaks. I’m sure there’s a large percentage of people who would prefer to have it downstairs opposed to on their face but it’s kind of not up to you at this point. The good news is you have each other and I hope it’s a healthy relationship.

With that attitude, you’ll be just fine. Keep your chin up! I’m trying like hell to do the same.

Thanks. Just keeping my fingers crossed I’m not affected any more than I need to be. So hard as it is to cope.

So I had my first outbreak about a month ago. Got swab test and positive for HSV2 (long story short, it’s been a nightmare) so, I had that one major OB. Blisters, burning, the works and after 3 or 4 days the visible stuff healed and it was a few weeks of burning, itching and soreness on my thighs. Back to normal now 99% thank god. I am typically very health and tough and think I have a very strong immune system. I NEVER get sick... although I know I’m stuck with this for life, I would love to think there’s a chance I won’t have anymore outbreaks. anyone here have a first OB and then never again? im sorry for anyone who has frequent OBs but is there any chance I can at least live without the reminders? could I possibly go a symptomatic like the 80% of people who have it and never get symptoms? I feel normal again finally and would love to think I can stay that way.

I’m sorry for all that you have been through. I hope the next guy you end up with treats you with the respect and care you deserve.

Don’t blame the opposite sex. I’m a guy. It happened to me too and I have only been with three women my entire life. It’s a horrible experience but it doesn’t discriminate. My girlfriend didn’t know she had it. Now I have it. I would never keep it a secret from anyone in a new relationship

About a month after my second COVID shot, I established that I have hsv2. Huge breakout. The whole thing came out of nowhere. This has been a nightmare.

COVID vaccine? Anyone here having this issue NOT vaccinated?

Thanks hop. I really appreciate the insight. Can you give a little more detail about your personal experience “riding it out” for the first year w/o the medication? I feel like my case is very standard and really just want to ball Park what this next year or so will look like.

I was diagnosed with HSV2 about a week and a half ago. Nightmare but that’s another story... Classic first outbreak. dr prescribed valtrex 2 tabs a day for 10 days. I’m almost done with the bottle and pretty afraid of another outbreak when it runs out... I guess my question is, would I be better off, if I had another OB to just let it ride so my immune system could battle with it and gain higher immunity or would I be better off with another prescription. I certainly do not want to be on daily suppressive medication for this but I’ll obviously do what I have to to keep things at bay. I'm just really scarred. I’ve never had an illness like this. I never even get a cold. I’m trying to be as logical and proactive as possible.

My story is almost the same. Minus the symptoms. I am a male and have more classic hsv2 symptoms. Pretty obvious suggestion but 800 mg ibuprofen worked for me in terms of discomfort and pain. That’s not gonna solve your issue by any means but it helped me.

I definitely feel scatterbrained and have odd sensations that I wonder if they are just in my head. I know I have not been eating well and have been dealing with depression and anxiety over this hard. I feel like that’s natural. So just trying to cope. for example I have this odd sensation in my belly button. It’s almost like if you were to imagine someone just holding a pin or pencil tip to it, but it’s not an actual feeling physically. It’s like it’s just in my head. Odd. also on top of my right thigh it feels like a very light sunburn but there is absolutely no rash or anything visible. I think this thing plays with your head a bit. Must have something to do with the nervous system and the brain telling you things that aren’t really happening. Like a malfunction of neurons or something. I’m just so glad that everybody says it gets better with time in the first bout is typically the most difficult. Hoping for very few reoccurrences. good luck to you!