Judith

Hi Rene, did you went for swimming outside in the sun or inside the pool? I dont think that chlor give you any syptoms but the sun do for sure. I do like to go for beach or the moutains in spain and i really often realize that sun bring prodromal symptoms. Heat and sweating is something what can accure outbreaks. Herpes like the heat, Herpes like the sun but dont worry about it , dont stop living and do what you like to do. I am german, I live in spain because my cronical disease ( crohn didese )is much better in warm place. I always realice that heat infect my Herpes but it dont stop me of living my live. Go for the pool if you like, go for hiking if you like....dont let Herpes to be the owner of your Body.Sorry my gramatic corrector dont work on my PC at Moment , so i guess the most i wrote is carp english...sorrry for that.anyway .eat healthy , do some sport, go for a pool swim, do everything you like..The pool dont bring any OB.enjoy your pool day darling

Hi, i know that the most of the times the herpes OB are on the same places but for me its not that way.My OB coming always on diffrent areas , only on some more then others.I would suggest an condom anyway because it reduce the risk for your new partner.Anyway she is aware of your Herpes so you need to talk about it and make decision together.You hd your first OB in january so your body still build up antibodies,for the begiining i absoltely would suggest protection.

Hi, tea is always a very good antioxidancia but I never heard that green tee can help with herpes but I can say that tea is always is good thing to drink. From my experience its better to use herbals like curcuma or oil like coconut oil. Its good to eat a lot of fresh fruit and vegetable's, white meat like chicken is very good too. Try to live as healthy as possible, that the only thing can help you . For sure green tea will not harm at all , its clean up your body even if I don't like that tea at all....it makes me nervous . Sugar can force outbreaks but on the other site it make you happy :). never stop living ....be alive and healthy.

Hi, you definitely need to talk about that ,there is no way around. WC Dancer is right , you give him pleasure and he is ok with it when he don't need to do anything himself and ignore the fact you having H.....this is absolutely no healthy relationship, please talk to him again and give him the fact of risk of transmission .If you take antivirals and a condom....the transmission rate with both is only by 2 percent., which is not to high because when he would sleep around the rate would be much higher then sleeping with you...H or all the other sexual viruses are always around....doesn't matter who he sleep with. You cant go on like that and now you even make a big trip to my Europe together so it would be much better that you sort that out before you go together on vacation. I hope you will have a talk soon :) . By the way if you go to Europe you for sure should visit my town Barcelona, it a beautiful city .....you will have a great time. good luck with your guy

Hi, the guys are right ,every person take a risk if they have sex but I don't think casual sex is different then sex with your partner ,there is always a risk because not every person know that they have H or HPV or whatever. I never was sleeping with a guy without an condom but I have HPV and HSV1 so what does it tell you ? I cant tell you if you need to tell a casual partner that you have HSV1 genital, that's your decision but from my point of view I always would tell a person .....I wane be honest about that virus and actually with 32 I don't search this kind of adventure anyway anymore because it gives me nothing. I did it several times in the past ,maybe to fell better maybe to feel accepted but I never felt better after that at all, it only was wasting of time , much better to use vibrator and wait for the right man (even if I didn't found that one yet) Well as I said if you don't wane tell them its your decision , you can let them go down on you .I am not sure but I think the transmission rate for HSV 1 oral and genital is the same . Think about what you really want in your live, if you think that this make you happy then go for casual sex but its better to be honest.....the guys will make they own decision.

hi Likealamb, welcome to this website, welcome of feeling accepted and understood. First thing its really great that you see herpes as a challenge and that you try to change it in something positive, this is a really good start and sure its fantastic that you have a supportive partner. I am sorry for you bad experience in the hospital , the most doctors seriously don't seem to care ,they treat you as a number and that's it , I think this kind of doctors really lost it , they should change they jobs even if its only herpes but I guess this kind of person are not more sensitive with a cancer diagnose neither :( . sorry that you seem to be in really bad bad pain ,so I am not really sure if this came from oral sex but yes it could be every person have different symptom's. I do have herpes 1, my immunsystem is constantly down and I never experience the pain you talk here about (cant walk or pee), so for me it sound more like hsv2 but you should get at test even without an insurance if possible. At the beginning the symptom's are much stronger and YES it will get much better after a while, the first 6 month are the worst for most people because your body get used to that virus. Some are only get 1 outbreak and then virus don't come back for years, you will see it the next weeks. The strength of the symptoms can change from day to day, sometimes I don't have any symptom's and next day I get an itchy feeling without any reason but as I said the most people don't get any symptom's after a while, so if you have a healthy lifestyle and you don't have any serious sicknesses your body should get used to H in short time. Try to eat really healthy , not to much drinking ,all lot of fesh fruit and vegetables. Maybe you can try to put L-Lysine ,vitamin C or coconut oil in your diet , a lot of people have really good experience with that and for this you don't need to go for a doctor :) I hope you get better soon .

Yeah, it doesn't matter if you have H on your mouth or genital but sure genital is a private area,so the people take it more seriously and its much stronger at least for woman. The most people think H only exist on mouth because what we usually see and yes in the past I thought its only at the mouth, I heard the first time about herpes genital of a colleague of mine and she didn't make big deal of it , she thought she not even had to tell her partners...till I got H and found out fuck yes you need to tell your partner. When I started to get more information I Had a serious conversation with her that she really do the wrong thing but she was sure she cant infect anyone when she don't have an OB....after that really strange phone call I deleted her in all my contacts. Well the H on the moth is usually for 1-2 weeks so you able to kiss her soon :) no worry's this will go over , 90 percent have H 1 and we all like to kiss people and we still do . I had all my live H1 on my mouth but when I got H 1 genital ,yes this was a deal breaker , I was more ashamed of that then on the mouth ,not sure why but its that way , its more personal. ..its intimacy. Well we all here to educate people ,that's what I try to do with my friends and we have to scream it out .....ITS ONLY A SKIN CONDITION FUCKING HELL Yeahhhhhhhhhhh.One day people will understand but it need time

Hi one Love Girl, well first thing its so great that you stepped out of this unhealthy relationship ,even he is the father of your son .you done the right thing ,its better to be alone then being with a person which treat you like crap.I can imagine how hard it was for you to take that decision. A lot of people stay in relationship's only because they don't wane be alone , even people without herpes....they say well maybe it will work out at one point and yes I did the same ,I thought this guy is quit nice but not the one but I don't wane be alone again . The new man you meet seems to be really into you , sure there is always a chance of rejection but this you always have ,as WCDANCER said we all have several reason to reject someone but if you don't give it a try and being from the beginning honest with him you will never find out if it would have been worked with you both.....you always will ask yourself why I didn't tried...AT LEAST TRY. I know its easy to say because I never disclosed myself but if I find somebody nice I would tell the person that I like him and that I would like to share something personal with him. Tell him first why you wane share your little secret with him and then give him the fact about H (transmission rate ,that you take medication and need to use condoms). If he is really into you he will accept it because H is not that big deal, if he don't accept its maybe because he is scared of that virus or he is not that into you as you thought but as it sound for me he try to be with you. Give it a try and be the all in love girl :)

Hi, I get sometimes itchy feeling when I go to the beach ,I live in Barcelona so the beach is my best friend :). But for me its usually more the sweating then the sun itself but some people don't have any problems with that at all so you need to test your body out.

Hi, sorry but I don't think at all that this is the right way to deal with that situation , he hurt you but don't put yourself down that road of self justice, this will not help you at all, the bad karma will bite you soon. Move on with your live and make H help you to get better self acceptance and to be a good person which you are under all this angriness for Dustin. I can see your point and maybe it would give you for a moment some satisfaction but for sure not on long term. Let it go and live in the moment right now, forget about this idiot, forget about the past...its the past,now your live start

Hi Unhappy 1, well I am not a doctor but I know that I get my most outbreaks when I have my period so I guess the shedding of H is my higher then usual in that period. Of course it don't need to be, not every woman get with her period an OB or any symptom's, it deepens on the woman's immunsystem . Check out the video of doctor Leone( you find it on the top) , he said at one point that you even can have viral spreading even if you don't have symptom's but it deepens on every person. Sure if you are in a relationship with somebody it would be saver if you use condoms, it will take the risk down by 50 percent, so it maybe a aver option but it depends on every person. Some couples have unprotected sex and they don't infect anybody they whole live because they health is really stabile.. Decide together, be honest and trust each other...that the most important part. The person with H always should read the symptom's and be honest. thats all

Hi, sorry that you have that bad prodrome symptom's at the moment and yes it could mean that you getting another outbreak or as Adrial said it shows that your body fighting the virus. The tingling up the butt and legs is really normal ,I do have the same symptom's. I know its really annoying but it will get less in the future.Try first to take a hot bath with salt or a hot shower , this will calm the area bit down for a while. Sure you need to look now a bit more on your health , eat fresh veggies and fruit, use antioxidant, anti virales like turmeric or coconut oil. I suggest that you go another time to your doctor and ask him for couple more weeks of medication, tell him what kind of symptom's you have and he will understand. I know you would like to talk somebody close but for the moment the people on this website can give you a lot of help ,we all gone through the same body and mentally pain as you do at the moment and we do understand you to 100 percent , first weeks is a really ´hard time but it get better, I swear . maybe now its a bit to early for you to talk to close friend or family but in the future you should talk about H with them ,sure only people you trust and you will see that people can give you help , a hug or only listen to you. I hope you feel better soon. Believe is the best medicine

Hi Darling, I know how you feel , when my ex broke up the second time with me (well second time he used me because he couldn't find anybody else to fuck ....nice ) he was only 1 month later together with one of my colleague who only sat 2 meters away from my desk( even nicer, let me feel more like a useless bitch :) )I felt betrayed ,up sad and nobody will love me ever but this go over...let dustin go he don't worse it. Now I know that he wasn't the right guy for me and I wasn't the person he wanted ....that happens but as you said you are a person who love people and that important, you know who you are. By the way it would be really nice if you could get your new friend Charley a friend too, its probably really boring situation for him alone in that glass, get him another fish he can love too....If you love him he will thank you for that.( I hope you don't have one off this really small spherical aquarium.....give him some space too ....ok sorry now my love for animals speak, but probably he fell like us having herpes and being the only fish in that world. Free charley :):):) Let Dustin go and get the great person you always had been.

Hi wicked, well its great that you found the right guy and that you planning the future together. I don't have MS but I do have 2 autoimmune sicknesses. I do have Crohn disease ( which means the cell of the intestine do kamikaze suicide ...not sure why they wane do that ,strange cells they are hehehhe ). Well sure you need be more careful as usual person without any disease. We have a much bigger risk to contract herpes or whatever other virus the other people have ,I am not sure if you should supplements but go and ask your specialist what they think. If you would get infected the possibility that you get more OB the other is more then possible , at least I do get more then normal people but this don't should hold you back to get sexual active with the man you care for. He respect you with MS and you respect his H. He already started his antivirals and for reducing the risk it would be better if you use condoms. He need to be honest and listen to all symptom's, he can have an OB without showing blisters but he have it quit a while so I am sure how he need to deal with. I wish you both good luck. enjoy your time together and don't make your mind crazy about H , it could happen with every guy you get intimate Judith

Sure we do , I wrote you a private message :) talk to you soon

Hi , sorry but I choose spain but there is no possibility for my area where I am living so I am not able to donate money??????? The paypal system give an error Please enter a valid Province......maybe I am too stupid for that :)but I used paypal before ....who knows

Hi Aimee, sorry to hear how bad you feeling , I know it myself I have my ups and downs too ,like everyone who have H. this guy have no deeper connection to his inside ,he only have a connection to his own EGO.....this people will go on and on like that, you cant change them.I hope that his karma will bite him in his ass and he will get next live a little stupid cockroach, he deserve it and we will fly over him like the most beautiful butterfly's and he will wish that he would be one of us.. I know its really hard ,I am in the same position I cant see myself in a relationship because I still get a lot of little tiny outbreaks and I still don't feel I want that closure But I wane try and what everyone else should try is to find freedom and harmony in his live. I saw today a message of my friend and he said that to be inside freedom is not cheap its priceless. It will cost your world, your attachments your life but it worse it. The price is that you will pay a lot of pain, spend a lot of time of crying as you do at the moment. Its not easy to come out of that closet , its a process of trying to find self acceptance and to love yourself and actually no I still don't do but I try to work every day on it ,as you should try yourself because Its important to all of us to find ourselves , our deep internal being. It a really long long long stony road , full of tear ,blood and fear but you don't have any way around that and me neither ,if not we lost...if not the only option is to give up and I and I am sure neither wane give up to find freedom in ourselves. I wish you the best, if you ever wane talk let me know. wish you great day, breath breath breath and connect to yourself Judith

Wow that really beautiful written ,thanks for sharing...I could really feel the pain you felt with the other guy and your truly honest feelings for your new soul made, lover and friend. Wish you both good luck. I don't know you as person but you gave us all a small look in your beautiful heart. You deserve it, enjoy every moment

Hi, I know that the period can course OB but I never had a much worse Period because of that. I guess every woman have once or twice a year a bit worse period and cramps as usually, I do sometimes. Well we all like to blame all our symptom's to herpes but maybe it could be that herpes affect you like that. See what the next month are bringing ,maybe its because you stressed out about Herpes, the mind affect always affect the body. tremendously . Hope you feel bit better now and the cramps are gone.

Hi, would like to donate couple of euros but spain is not in the state list ,have to be E or ESP for spain??????????Not sure if it matter if I take DE??

Hi, I used tee tree oil in the past and it calmed down my itchy feeling but I stopped it because I thought its to strong (the oil and the smell ).I tried the coconut oil too on my spots but I prefer to eat every day my meals with that oil plus a lot of turmeric because both are natural antivirals. turmeric is 100 percent stronger antioxidant then broccoli for example. I still do get OB but if I get one its really small. A bath or a hot shower always calm the itchy feeling down so if you have a bath ( which I don't have :( Spanish people seem not to like that )you should go for it . have a good day

Hi , yes itchy feeling in or at the end of an OB is really normal, don't worry about that.....it means that your body still fight the virus. You even can get this symptom's without outbreak. it only tells you to be carefully´with touching that area and having sex.. but it will go away soon . :)

Hi Sab123, well usually the outbreak come to the same parts as first time but it possible that the outbreak appear somewhere else too. Actually I hade the same symptoms some days ago around my butt underwear area, I didn't had any bumps neither but I had a itchy feeling so its more then possible that Herpes is active. You not always need to get an outbreak when the virus is active ,sometimes you only get this burning itchy feeling.Now you getting less symptoms(no pain when you pee) which is normal because you got used to the virus and this means less symptom's. I thinks that your body try to fight the virus at the moment or its because of shaving . anyway be a bit more careful the next days , wait a bit with sex and then you will see. My symptom's only waist 2 days and now it gone. ´Chill out and relax , it will be soon better :) Have a good day

nearly 90 percent of the people contract HPV till they 50 ,so you are not alone with that(or your partner ??) It could be that your immunsystem was down when you had herpes and then HPV came up too or could be that your partner had it before, it quit usually. At least the European statistic says that the chance of cancer is by 8-10 percent but it deepens on your immunsystem and which type of hpv you are having. The best is to make a pap test too ,which actually every woman should do every once or twice a year. When I got my hPv result the doctor only said....Well ´so much people have it no worry. Try to live healthy and stressless live , which is the most important. have good day

HI, well sure its not the best start of an relationship to get directly an outbreak but it gives you time to know each other bit more and get a stronger connection with each other and as I can see your new partner support you and he accept you as person with or without herpes. to your question I for sure would wait a little bit more, I guess 1 or 2 weeks after the last things fall of would put the risk down. If you in a relationship with an non herpes Partner it would be best if you stay on suppressive therapy to low down the risk of transmission to more then 50 percent. With valtrex +condoms the transmission rate will be round 1-2 percent. You both already play round with alternative stuff so you have sex already, sex is not only stick his dick inside you :) . Enjoy your time together till you get better. Have a good day