Judith

Wow lonely husband , sorry I am not sure what to say , you are in a so bad situation, its a quit heavy post, really heavy . I am really sorry what your daughter did or not did (not sure what happened ) and that you cant see your grandchild's at all :( I never have been in your situation ,so am really struggling to give you an answer on that. I cant sort out your family ( prison ) situation , I only can say that you cant go on like that with your wife, its not healthy relationship. You both have herpes ,so it should make everything easier but it don't look like it do. Why your wife don't wane have sex. Did you talked with her about it? Is it because you both have herpes or because she get a lot of OB , or is it only because she don't wane have sex. To give each other person sexual attention is a big part in every relationship, I never have been in really long term relationship( only six month ) so I cant say what happen after 20 years but you need to talk to your wife in a really honest way about it. Tell her how you feel about your relationship without having sex , I know she care about you but every person need a hug, kisses and yes sex ....every person need that attention of his partner. Sorry I cant give you any suggestion because I don't have enough information what happened between you both but I think you both need to talk asap....no way around...you don't wane go on like that I hope you can give us more info ,sorry that I couldn't help ....you are in a really difficult family situation. I wish you all the best , I hope to hear soon of you

Hi FanC, awesome news :) well my boyfriends never have never been my type neither but I never thought the outside the most important.part, they need this little something , can be nice smile , humor or whatever...good luck your great guy , hope it works out

I liked that docu :) good message bro

Hi WCDANCER, yep please ask him if we can point out people for every country , even if handout books in Spain, in a gum don't help because they don't speak English :) but I would like to send it to English speaking people in BCN and talk about it with them. Barcelona is a very international town and people from all over the world live here , I am sure a lot of people contract it in Barcelona (or Spain ) and they don't know what to do because the doctors over here are not the best and sure its difficult to get support if you don't be able to speak perfectly about it in Spanish. I feel comfortable to speak about in German and English but I still hard to express myself in Spanish....heheheh so at moment no Spanish boyfriend (well ok no BF at all but this is a different construction site (as we say in German , maybe it don't work out in English )

HI, sorry to hear that you in that bad situation , I can remember my first weeks with H and it describe exactly what you go through now. I know you will not believe that but it get better, I didn't believed people on that website neither at that point BUT yes it do....it do get better. Its ok that you feel alone and sad, cry whenever you feel like ....let it be, you absolutely aloud to be angry and up sad. Slowly you will get better and please start to talk about it with your really close friends or family members( even if its hard ) , don't put yourself alone in that closet, in that dark cave.... sure at beginning only talk with people you trust completely. Sorry to ask but what happened with the guy you wanted to marry , did he left you for having H ??? If he did then H was a good trigger to show you who he really was .....H is a good filter for that , its better to see what kind of person he is now then when you married for years , with children and he leave you for other kind of situation when he think its get to difficult for himself. I hope you get better soon, Please read as much as you can on this or other websites and you will see there is a lot of support and you absolutely not alone with H .....H is only a skin condition and one day somebody will love you :) big hug

Hi, Well maybe we can set up something on that website for people in Europe( even its a American website), maybe we could be the participant person for the country we live in...make this forum a world wide possibility, I guess H is in every country the same but we don't have forums in every part of that world. I think a lot of European get at one point to that website when they searching in Google for herpes forum but they don't write anything because they wane speak with people from they country or well the country they live at moment.(like me am German and live in Spain )Its not my website so I cant decide but maybe it would be good idea to have a contact person for every country....Even if I am not good support as Adrial is but I am good listener and try what I can to support. What you think ?

HI Naomi, as I said in my other post ,Europeans don't talk about H like US people do, there are rare possibilities to find people who wane talk on that forum, I don't know why its that way ???? .....there a not to much people from Europe who open up here or even put a picture on that website because they afraid that everyone will know. Go in June to the meeting in London and you can talk to some people directly and they can tell you more about H in UK....I am not from there but I am sure there are some groups for people with H, London is a big town. Contact somebody on Herpes.org.uk and they can give you more information in your country. I live in spain , my Spanish is not the best so for me its even more difficult to speak with people who know what H can mean at the beginning but I meat two people from that website, they found me in google...they gave Barcelona and herpes inside and found me......uuuuuuuuuffffffff hehhehehe quit easy to find my picture and name in the web ...I guess some people I work with probably saw my picture but seriously I DONT CARE :) I hope more English speaking people from spain will contact me and we can start the shameless opportunity all over the world...in UK or wherever you live .

Well we all wait for this someone, even without H :) one day it will happen

Yup Misskellyrenee is absolutely right, this guy is NOT the one for you. You haven't keep any secret from him , you only waited till you felt good to tell him. Sure he can say that he don't wane deal with H but it have to be in a different way.....his reaction only showed that he is not the guy for you or not the guy you thought he was....in the first moment it felt probably really hurtful but the herpes filter gave you a really good look at him , something you wouldn't have seen in first place without H :) one day we all will find somebody supportive, at least I hope for and a lot of stories on that website showed that its possible :) wish you a good day , forget about that guy . Judith

Hi Naomi, I come from Europe too and I would say that the statistic should be similar to the US but Europeans talk less about H which is a big problem . I never heart any herpes joke in my live.....seems to be more a American thing :) . I remember that somebody from this website told me that there is once a month a herpes meeting in London ....well actually its more like a little party in a bar but maybe it would help if you go there and meet some people who know what you going through ( think she said she contacted somebody on herpes.org.uk ) enjoy your day Judith

Hi, usually people get less or no OB at all with Valtrex but I still do even I take 500 mg a day. It always deepens on your immune system, it could be a sore or not. It wouldn't be unusual if you got an OB even with Valtrex. I need to take Valtrex daily because my live is a mess without it but if you don't get to much OB and you not in relationship I would not take it . See how your body works without it and if you do get directly an OB , you go back on medication again.

Hi DragonBorn, first thing there are no stupid questions, if you don't ask question ,you don't get an answer and you will educate people with the wrong information....so welcome to that website.:) You said that you have diabetes two which is an autoimmune sickness,( I do have crohn disease which is autoimmune related too :( lucky us )...so I am in your position and feel quit often betrayed too...why me ???well life sucks sometimes ..MORE and More issues to deal with ...we need to learn to accept it.. :) For people like us the chance to get any kind of infection is much higher then for normal healthy people, so H accurse usually more issues for us then for other people......but this deepens on your immunsystem .I have HSV1 and I get more outbreaks then I should get with that version but this don't mean that the same will happen to you but for sure we need to look much more after ourselves then other people. Can the virus go to other places, its not likely when you don't touch the open source but YES it can, I do get OB on different places on my vagina , lucky me again :) ..and I should never have gotten H genitals because I had H1 on my mouth since I was ten , so my body should have enough antibodies that it should never have got it down there......but as you see Herpes had a different plan :).......Herpes not always react as the statistic tell us , you will need to learn to listen to your symptom's and after a while you will find out what going on down there. Is it only itchy feeling which is there for some seconds (probably no OB ) or is this a constantly itchy feeling over couple of days ???well if you get it constantly and you get that burning feeling there is a big chance that you getting an OB....but as I said it don't need to be but it could show that your body fight the virus...you will learn to read the symptom's soon , Herpes will teach you and we will try to help you where we can....if you have more questions please let us know. I wish you a good day Judith

Hi, I watched the video now...please watch it. whatever you go through at moment herpes or not, its a challenge...be brave and share your experience...great woman

Hi Henrytheherp, well done , well done :):) Great that you had been that open to your family ,even I probably would never have my talk with family in a Mexican restaurant but actually this situation sound quit funny uncle monkey :) .Cant wait to see how your book will be, cant imagine at moment what you will make out of our answers but I hope you will educate people and make it bit funny entertaining too. Sometimes is good to laugh herpes in the face.You seem to be a good person.wish you a great day

Hi, nop usually you should have a itchy feeling and get some bumps , could be a normal bacteria infection but you should go to the doctor to make sure.....don't worry to much about it.

Yep, that fine wcdancer, at least people need to know that there is a possibility that they can get H in both areas and protection is always good :) there are worse things then Herpes we need to think about. Wish you all a wonderful, sunny and hopefully herpes free day.

Hi, well the chance is quit low but yes you can get it even its not likely. Depense how your immunsystem work but its possible,yes but not likely.....I have 1 so I don't wane get two, so let cross the fingers :)

Hi, well I saw couple of people on that website with oral and genital herpes, so maybe its not likely but please use protection anyway.....I am sure you can get both, I am the prove, its not good to tell people that they don't need protection.i am not statistic WCDANCER , I am human ....I am here to listen and educate people..... and this is not right information

Hi HenrytheHerp, sorry you said that people cant get HSV 1 on different kind of places, maybe I misunderstood, did I ??? Sure you can , usually the OB come on same place back but I have HSV 1since I am 10 on my mouth and I got it on my genitals too ,sure you can infect somebody on different places....nothing to worry but H can go to every kind of places of your body. Usually it don't but sometimes it do...at least from my experience I cant confirm that...I have it on both places. Sorry :(

HI QueenBE, thanks for sharing your experience on that website, so happy that you found it and that the forum and adrials videos could help you. Your husband don't need to be worried that you drive yourself crazy, at the beginning every person get a bit crazy mind about that but it get better ,time will make you more comfortable with that skin condition. You are 5 year together , non of you cheated . So there is a possibility that he had it before or that you had it for long time and didn't knew, probably this could be a mistery forever but its nothing you should think about to much , it doesn't matter at the end. Some people carry the virus for 20 years or more and they never shown any Symptoms or get any OB. Sorry for your emergency experience, well I guess the most doctors in emergency don't know about Herpes to much, they don't know that 20 percent caring HSV 2 or 1 genital(50 percent of new infection come from there) and they don't know about Transmission rates and stuff like that. Your Gyn doctor was so right, I guess she saw that so often in her live.......a LOTTTTTTTTTTTT of people have it but the problem is that nobody talk about it and people think only sluts get it.....so more we talk about , so more people realize that its quit in common , so more we can start the shameless opportunity....and you did a good start when you wrote your post :):) thanks so much Anyway I am happy that you have a supportive partner and that he only see it as a skin condition.You both need to see how much OB you get and if you need Valtrex or not. Sure the transmission rate go down when you take antivirales but he should make a bloodt est too to see if he have it to or not and then you decide together. Listen to the symtoms. H will tell you when you will get an OB. If you have an OB , red skin or any itchy feeling then its sure that you shouldn't have sex. For the rest enjoy your live ( Sexlife ) Good luck for you both

Hi, i get OB with every kind of nut , so if you didnt had OB for several month you probaly have the same issue as i do with nuts.If you are not sure if this was the trigger try again to eat peanutbutter if your body get the same reaction then put them out of your diat list .Sorry i am european and i never understoud why you americans eat that, dont taste so nice for me :)...but i know it belong to american culture ...i guess you dont like a lot of things european eating neither.

Hi, yep i would be in too :) lets educate other people and make their live bit easier then it had been for us in that first period of time....time of shame, time of insecurities and time of beeing selfdistroying ( well at least for me ).good idea Darling.Will buy your book :)

Hi Strawberry, i am happy that you meet that guy today, i hope it work well. But you said he look so heathty.Sorry but every peron think that i am so healthy . I do a lot of sport and people always think I am in a good shape but what people see its not always the trueth .Maybe the guy have Herpes Too . You cant see what People have.The outside dont show any illness.Anyway i hope that you diclose sucessfully and that the guy see your true inside........thats whats most important.

Hi ded _jada, ok i understand your anger, i understand it so well!!!!!!! I was angry so long time and sometimes i am still angry about this fucking Herpes Virus ( was fucking angry 1 week ago because i got an OB).Ok,so you dont think that this is only a skin condition , well it is but I know its a really annoying virus....its sometimes so fucking annoying !!!!!!! But But But But its get better , you will learn to accept H but this needs time, i needed so much time .......and to be honest i am not completely over it but i am so much better now. Let it go, dont let your anger of this guy or fucking Herpes destroy your live. Try to make a little step from today on , try to be friend with Herpes, let the Virus teach you. Sure I would prefer that I dont have it but H showed me a healthier live....I even bought a juicer today...to make my own Juice. I guess i would never would had bought something like that if I didnt would have H and i would not had informed myself about all this healthy Food livestyle stuff ( even i ade before a lot of veggies ) Cant wait to prepare tommorow my first selfmade Juice and kick Herpes in the fucking arse ..hheheheheheh . Well i know you have a really heavy time but you will realice it get better but you Need to be Patient....you will be better at one Point.

Hi, sorry to clarify, did you knew that you had Herpes or not? I maybe guess you did.If you didnt know it souhld be the best thing to get at test and talk to your partner about it. Dont start a realtonship with a lie, be honest from the begining.Well if you already knew from beginning it would be time to tell him directly if not you will regret it at one point. Its always best to talk, if its Herpes or whatever......the most realtionship fuck up because people dont talk(which happpend a lot of times in my case)Be honest please, be YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU and it willl show if he like you enough to accept HERPES. do the right thing