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Tonite I had dinner, for the first time in several months, with someone very close to my heart for a very long time...my high school sweetheart, we dated all thru high school, our relationship ended 2 years after high school, but our trust and friendship is unbreakable...we took each others virginity, broke up, got back together....it was during the breakup I have concluded that one of us contracted h. He said his wife has it, but blamed her ex because another of his exs has it...he has not been tested...he only remembers seeing one small rash in the gential area about 10 years ago. He shared with me he was diagnosed with hep c and is being treated. Next time he goes for bloodwork he is asking for hsv test. I said the actual word herpes in my dialogue with him, that kind of slapped me in the face with who I am trusting of....I told him about my husbands comment about h (above), about how I described it to him but not sure hubby gets it. He is computer illiterate but had the same response I have seen and heard here... He loves me...it shouldn't be a concern between 2 people that care and or love one another, there are ways around it...he shook his head about my hubby and kindly asked me to re evaluate things....if I can't trust him enough to sit and talk with him, like I am now, there is a problem. He said people that love you will accept, those that can't need to go. It was a breathe of fresh air to be able to talk about it, and be me! Not the professional side, not the mom side, not the wife side, but to just be.....me

I know you like him but I'm also of the opinion don't stand still, continue to get to know others Good luck

I'm still in the "closet" about my dx....describing it and not actually saying it....so I'm not bullet proof anything now

Your feelings matter, you are special.....and her requests are overboard....if she's that paranoid, sorry...I wouldn't even go there.

Just a vent...I'm sure this has already been addressed onsite, but I don't have too much time to surf for it, so I'll just vent away ;) So today in my infinite wisdom I decided to call the cdc...stds are reported correct? I wanted the statistics...I wanted to know if my case would be reported...i was told no...hsv1 nor hsv2 was reported...I honestly don't understand the reasoning behind it, and I went round and round with the lady on the phone (I already know it's like they read from a script)...I even said hsv2 is a sexually transmitted disease but yet, it's non reportable, it's not on the usual screening, but as patients we are responsible for disclosure? To prevent something the medical community and the CDC view as no big deal? Vent over urgh

my initial outbreak years ago was all over Now, I had a ob, few internal and was also unaware it was happening..the only clue I had that there was a problem was pain when urinating (on exit)....I did not have discharge but discomfort so I just figured it was a yeast infection.

I share your concerns, I think most sexually active people do, some are strong enough to face their challenges with prompt testing...some are not. I have hsv2 and read during breakouts we are susceptible to hiv when we go unprotected, like hsv1 or 2, hiv does not always show symptoms until late stage..... Try not to worry, use condoms, and test annually unless you feel the need to test sooner. Good luck, hugs

@Brynn2012 your post is filled with emotion....emotion means you care...even if it's negatively portrayed...take it from someone who can shut down all emotion and truly walk away without a word. Your young man and friend just seem naive.... Just my 2 cents Sending hugs!!

@KatsMomUtah if there was a like button I'd like your response! It's nice to know you're not the only one out here with these thoughts xo

I'm curious too He was included in a convo I had October 8, I was assured id get a pm and still have not, must be very busy

@WCSDancer2010 "Thinking, hmmm" I think that's a compliment, perfect candidate lol If it's possible, I would attend

@2Legit2Quit......I disclosed along the line I have contracted an incurable skin disease in my gential area....we are certain I've had it for decades....whether stress, poor nutrition, other things can make it flair up....I'm sure you have it, if I see it on you, I will go with you to the doctors and ask for proper testing and help you manage it.(husband) Like it or not, I handed it the best way I knew how considering his telegraph mouth, and not sure he fully gets its h. Affair, same thing only I told him he should seek std testing for it for him and his wife...he is a nurse....if he didn't get it based on that, that was his prompt to ask me further questions and I would not of lied....he didn't ask...didn't speak to me for a while after that but he's back. I had a biopsy done several years ago on my leg, it was lichen...a skin spot brought on by stress...another manageable skin condition...very rarely do I see it but when I do I just call the dr for cream...I suppose h is along this line, only sexually transmitted and huge stigma

Thank you for sharing Hopefully someday it will lead down a road for a cure

I read the article Let me just say this...I am starting to come to terms with my new diagnosis, but reflecting back, Drs agree I had my initial outbreak with h ulcers almost 30 years ago, undiagnosed If it is so extremely contagious...any idea how many men I could of infected along my paths? Then their new partners?

2 months later...and I am still in the closet with my diagnosis...not sure if I will ever be free enough to just talk about and say the actual h word...it is definitely the stigma surrounding it holding me back....time heals so I'm sure eventually all will be fine I started a new diet, I just hope it doesn't interfere with h...it seems well balanced with organic as much as possible.

Soooooo I never gave this a second thought but i did have my physical bloodwork just before my ob....and my vit d level was a little low...I just started to take a multi that included vit d. Related or coincidence? I don't know...

Years ago at my initial infection I never had anal sex either....I was covered with perianal, anal and vaginal ulcers

Thanks for sharing ;)

@WCSDancer With all respect...you left a link in another thread I just read, and in it, the admin here clearly uses the word dormancy and dormant http://herpeslife.com/herpes-triggers/ ????? Thanks, B

Yes...what a guy is right!! So my friend texted me a lot today , I held strong and didn't let her know about my status...or my tears behind the phone...I was being strong for her but (she is in a current relationship with someone else and is contemplating when to disclose to him.)..she said " I know, but I don't want to hurt anyone cause I'm being stupid and selfish! I really hate myself right now! " That statement certainly made me reflect...I still cant say the words genital herpes...I've disclosed by beating around the bush without saying it...I'm affected by the stigma, and I'm as silent about it as I can be (my own diagnosis)...I hope I snap out of it.

I agree, we the carriers are also to blame for the stigma...I have disclosed to 2 men without using the h word...I've officially known since august...and I'm still not comfy talking about it, it's like my hidden secret.

Negative is negative....just like I had a hard time accepting my positive disgnosis... Just continue to practice safe sex Good luck , hugs!

I also vote for Valtrex...and I also have the same feelings going on with my diagnosis...I try not to think about it and care for myself...I eat as organic and healthy as possible...i bathe nightly and put tea tree oil in (found in most health food stores) Good luck, hugs

@2Legit2Quit....thank you...I am feeling better, sounding horse but feeling better. So today I promised a friend I'd go with her to the clinic for std testing...without disclosing my status...I strongly suggested she ask for the herpes blood test...she has known this man for 20 years, he's been in and out of prison...he told her they test for stds in prison and he's clean...they've been friends for so long she trusted him...went unprotected...she's been having female problems that prompted her to seek std testing...she came out, they did everything but herpes, and she didn't ask for it...most of the testing was sent out but what they could put under microscope there in office...she was positive for trich....she's devastated...pushing the herpes testing at that point was fruitless..

Sooooo not that all my opinions weren't enough...I got another one today....above I said I spoke to my pcps nurse...today was my actual physician....she said she is 100 percent confident in her opinion that my initial outbreak was the chart I showed her(rounding up 30 years ago)...then she began to council me...she said not many things appear like that in the vaginal/anal area (ulcers)...she asked why do I keep wondering, suspecting maybe I got it elsewhere during my marriage due to infidelity on my part or my husbands...I said yes...(she didn't ask which one of us).....she just told me to relax....she is confident I've had it all these years...that it was dormant, and could very well go back to dormant, but if I have more than 2 outbreaks in a year I could consider suppressive therapy. She told me it is common, even though we might not see it a lot because of how long some people can be in that dormant state....she also said I might of had subtle breakouts I was unaware of....I had plus one in my urinalysis for about a year, but everything else on my ua was fine....she also states that very well could of been from herpes (inflamation etc).. Now I'm in bed with an infection and on antibiotic....I need to relax and boost my immune system back up to where it was.