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@WCSDancer2010 Then I suppose the same thought process applies to you as well being on this forum, you might not always be told what you want to hear. When you start off a sentence "Uh not to judge but"....there should be no "but" there should be no "judge" My statement was a vent...and i was including myself...but even if I wasn't...your opening line speaks for itself. You've helped many, you have helped me, you have inspired me, but don't always put your own thoughts on people's words. My vent included me. Hugs!

@WCSDancer2010 first of all, I didn't ask a question to prompt your opinion...I made a statement...I was venting...and absolutely I was reflecting on the whole situation, including myself, (lieing, cheating)...next time I suggest you keep your judgmental statements to yourself...I doubt your history is picture perfect. I already know 2legit is right.

Yes...antibodies are in the blood, not the virus, weird huh? I've donated many times thru the years and was never told I had hsv.

Being asymptomatic for decades I can tell you, masterbation, excercise, was not a cooncern for my body, but everyone is very different...I think my trigger was extreme stress.

Although I don't recognize your nick because I am fairly new, h does have a tendancy to bring us all down to vulnerable states....it's an emotional roller coaster I never thought I'd be on

For the last several years I have not been regular, only having it once twice a year, but I doubt it's h related, probably age Stress can reak all kinds of things on our bodies Hugs!

You will be fine, like my doctor told me, we need to take away Google ;) Best of luck, hugs!

@desertlove Not every doctor will give the blood work script but good luck...I tried and tried but because my swab was positive, they said positive is positive the bloodwork was useless. I read here it can be helpful.

@2Legit2Quit Wow! I am impressed to hear it is part of the standard pregnancy testing in your area... I'm in the healthcare field, like I stated above, it's not standard here...not for pregnancy, not for anything...I actually rarely see hsv2 as a diagnosis, I've been more aware of it since my own disgnosis

Blood testing for hsv 1/2 is not standard, at least not in my state...it is not part of the std panel of bloodwork ordered for pregnancy.... Unless it's demanded, or you have an outbreak and are swabbed, you will not know.

I'll say it again, I would like an h buddy just for chat, last time someone responded to me, I replied back and they were gone

I've never been rejected and it's NOT easy....I was officially diagnosed in April....and I'm still very much struggling....I don't think I've had another outbreak since that one, but the emotional stigma is one that I have "hid" in the closet about it, still not saying the h word but describing it... They say time heals, eventually I will be able to be open about it, and accepted by those who love me truly....and I know they are right...I eventually came open about HPV....this disease is taking much more time for me to absorb and come to terms with. You are not alone! Hugs!!!!

I already know he's making her happy at home.... It's an awful web

No, that she thinks they are happily married... I'm almost 3 months in on my newest disgnosis and still in very much denial about it. It's the whole lying cheating deceptive living two lives that bothers me when I see it....

Although my reason was not h at the time...I was very much alone raising my children for many years...when they were very young...I was so scorned and emotionally burnt, I wanted nothing to do with a relationship....take me out, be my companion, then take me home and go away...I wanted nothing to do with relationships... So yes, I understand how you feel, although our reasons are different. Eventually times does heal, I know this. Love will come to you again.

I also have a few questions that I posed in other threads along the way but would like to discuss and clarify Can vigorous rubbing without penetration transmit h.....I had an encounter about a year ago and he did not enter me but had vigorous rubbing gential to gential for hours Also....another used his hand on me for very very long time...and had an unusual breakout on his hand and arms that lasted weeks with scarring from itching....could I have transmitted h2 ? No entering me either. Just having a hard time on who I need to discuss my status with....so far I've discussed it with hubby and current affair, in a round about way. I'm slowly getting there.

Just a need to vent....(maybe I need start blogging although I wouldn't know where to go or how to start) So maybe h is helping to open up my eyes...not sure it will slow me down for good, but it has certainly slowed me down for now... I'm on fb again tonite and I peaked over at my affairs page...on it again was him and his wife...happy, smiling, and she writes under it "he is so wonderful" Gosh i wanted to puke...not sure why I even look...but all I keep thinking is Wonderful? He's telling me he loves me, wants to f""k me, might of transmitted h, oh but he's a gem!!! Double standard I know, because I have been no better.

Btw you are right, I am in the closet :(

Sorry,,,,haven't heard But keep us updated if you can, thanks ;)

I've had hsv2 for decades and was not aware....so we truly don't know where 1 or 2 come from....we have it, now we have to deal with it...hugs!!

It's a great well thought out post... Not sure it inspired me,....all I thought of at the end was about a masterbation session, not loving myself...I suppose I can seperate love from sex. Sigh...

The ladies above me said it all...ill just add I soaked in a bath and added a few drops of tea tree oil...helps soothe. If it's any consolation, my initial outbreak was so bad that til this day I remember it. I could hardly walk, pain to pee, covered...then went decades and it was a bad memory until recent...but hopefully this will be the worst for you. Sending hugs!!!

I've been a donor for many years, it's fine.

I have not tried olive leaf, but I'd be curious to know how you make out. I do take my tub with sprinkles of tea tree oil, when I had my new primary ob it helped soothe me, so now I always put it in my baths as a rule.

Like both of you, I went decades and didn't know I was hsv2 positive Confirm with the western blot like suggested above, it will give you both peace of mind Hugs!