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@Kat12 Thank you!

I actually work with a lady that has a swollen lymph node in her groin, it hasn't gone down, actually got a little bigger, they are sending her for biposy. When she googled (our worst enemy) sites she found h could be the cause but immediately dismissed the idea due to their past partner histories. I find it ironic and ignorant, not only to hear her speak But also her doctor, they did not do bloodwork for h.

I cannot also share non transmission stories, because I've gone all these years with it, didn't know, and not always used protection....and I don't know if I transmitted it to anyone other than my husband (and that's just s guess)

Touching one life....is worth it, so the number participating on this site is not a factor to me.

I'm just reading this and shaking my head....for me personally, when I leave work, that's where I like to leave my brain (lol) So to chime in and simplify, the transmission risk is so minimal that I sit here and think "why me??" I'm on to read next thread

Hsv1 or 2? I'm thinking 1 with your results, but I'm not a year yet into my own diagnosis. A positive result is a positive result, your number has nothing to do with how long you've had it, unless you had a negative blood test result prior and retested. It's an individual decision, I know they promote disclosure here....if he's your true friend, either way you will not loose him.

Foreign or local, I'm just amazed at how active some above are with so many I suppose there are lots out there that are open minded, not so much where i live

I cry, I still cry but not as often, not sure I'll ever get over the shock, you are not alone

I work in the same place my hsv2 diagnosis came thru....had I known at the time, I never would of had it sent there...it's like a monopoly with the doctors offices being linked with the hospital, now if anyone needs to view my record for clinical or billing, they will see it. As much as we want to think people don't talk, they do. So no, I don't mention it on any visits, it's already there.

Hpv was determined prevalent when they came out with the vaccine for the more dangerous strains that cause cancer cells...I had that strain, also came out in a pap...it was removed surgically...I went from a normal pap to pre cancer cells in one year... Like others have voiced, hsv is lifetime and incurable, I'm so surprised there hasn't been more research to at least have a vaccine, testing in the standard std panel, or cure.

@hippyherppy do your multiple girls that you have sex with know and were told you have multiple girls that you sleep with? Not in general terminology but you point blank told them If so boy does it show my age..not judge mental I have my own skeltons, just a sign of the time....years ago women that openly agreed to that lacked self esteem or were unable to show emotion by becoming attached, just a fun hookup. Time and tide wait for no man

Here is an article that might help http://www.healthassist.net/conditions/herpes.shtml

Too bad there is not a like button on this forum, sooo many good posts I'd like to click like or thank

Yayyyyy you go ;)

I'm sorry, but I am right there with you....I also feel the same...I wouldn't touch me if I knew prior to h....so why expect someone else to? They say time heals, but I'm still waiting There is lots of good support here and links about very successful disclosure stories if you surf this site, might offer you some inspiration. Hugs

Like Dancer said, the answer is no

@Seeker1960 negative blood and igg? I find that hard to believe you have 2. I do know someone that went thru many negative swabs before confirmation @ihavitttoo maybe can help you understand that, but it was swabs not blood. Western blot would confirm to you. And I hope it helps you to vent and explain about what happened, because we really owe no one an explanation except in our real lives. Good luck!

I agree with ihaveittoo and Dancer....I've been over to the westoverheights website and it has been helpful....the western blot will give you the definite answers you need and sometimes it worth doing, just for the piece of mind. Good luck!

@MMissouri no we have not both cheated.....I have been on both sides of the infidelity issue yes, but not with my current husband....he's been true, I am to blame, but obviously there are underlying issues. I've pulled back since my diagnosis and refraining. I do agree honesty is the way to go, however, there are times where silence is my only friend, at least for now. I would definitely get typed, I did also seek blood testing after my swab and found out I have type 1 and 2, but never had a cold sore. @interror what did you decide and how did it go?

@MMissouri , yes my doctor certainly advised me of that, for many of the reasons @interror has been fearing.....I'm pretty sure he was misdiagnosed with his initial ob, so when I talk of him suffering, I mean if he sees it again, I will prompt him to seek h testing for antiviral if he needs it. My pcp and other opinions I have sought have all agreed I have had this since I was 19. I can't help you understand infidelity, but I've been on both sides of this....and both sides have pain....all sides of pain. @interror you sound very strong and brave....when I confided in my ex I had hpv when we broke up, he went around telling everyone...I think we become a product of our past...I fear that also. From your post I can tell you love your wife and family, to go from a wild sex life to marriage and not roam.....unfortunately it does look bad, with your travel, a lot of time from home, etc....but hopefully when she hears the facts, she will be understanding and loving. You've probably had this a long time, and there is a possibility your wife is already positive. Good luck with everything and please keep us posted. Hugs!!

I also share on this road, I had one awful painful ob at first, mis diagnosed, then many many years later officially diagnosed with symptoms I thought were uti related. Everyone reacts differently, I hope it gets milder for you as well

@Chicagokid you are welcome....I've been in your shoes, I've felt the pain of betrayal, and even reflecting at times think I was wrong and betrayed. I also work in the medical setting, also deal with worse on a daily basis, and was highly embarrassed when my testing was sent to our facility....if I would of even suspected it would be positive I would of never sent it to our hospital. So I get feeling the emotional stigma associated with this disease. I do take the approach one day at a time, and I do know time heals and we will be fine. Just know you are not alone Hugs

Well written, sending hugs

Were you specifically tested for hsv2 in the past and recently? How do you know for sure she doesn't already have or had hsv? It can be carried and transmitted without noticeable symptoms.... I ask these questions because I am in a similar situation as you...after jogging my memory I did have my first ob many many years ago, and not another noticeable one until last August, when I received my official diagnosis... I still have not told my husband for all the fears you are now facing....my doctor also advised me not to disclose at this point, but I am near 100 percent sure he already has it... So I've been living in silence, although I have determined if he mentions seeing something that resembles h again, I will send him for treatment, I will not watch him suffer now that I know. You seem to have been shaken, I was also shaken, but I'm still in "I don't know land" 9 months later....although it definitely opened my eyes to life, it didn't necessarily make my underlying problems to infidelity any better.

I just find that sharing our stories really helps....in reading this thinking just a slippage and little time was able to transmit the virus, but stats about shedding etc make it seem so minimal....bottom line is hsv is tricky and has its own mind