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Bahahahaha dancer too good!!!!!!

Uh oh I turned Herry into a raisin!!!!! D: I also think part of our disclosure/awareness talked in making sure peoe understand they need a blood test to confirm...but to make sure they hound their doctors about it. Sometimes doctors brush off things because it's not a medical emergency.

Herry nooooooooooooooooooo that's the exact OPPOSITE of what I wanted :( My point I guess I'm trying to make is I had early symptoms but I had no idea because I didn't know what I was looking for. Herpes can look like razor burn on some and on others make your unmentionables look like the surface of an alien planet. And when I disclosed to my bf he was worried (as many of the people I disclosed to have been) that all the pictures on google are what's going to happen to them. It frustrates me :( Now please get out of the shower before you get all pruney please?

Step one: realize something isn't right "down there" OR be on the receiving end of a disclosure talk Step two: head to the interned because there's no better doctor than WebMD Step three: hmmm google images...maybe that will help Step four: WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT?! Step five: continue to believe all the stigma surrounding herpes. Sound familiar? I spent three hours the night I really truely started to believe I had herpes looking at my hoohah and then back at google images...id be convinced I didn't have herpes because it didn't look like that. But then id read a cdc article or something and be like "hmmm that sounds about right" go back to google and after looking at very frightening images be convinced I didn't have herpes. Now I know the next day and the one after my little bumps turned into sores and for some these google pictures depict a first outbreak but for a lot of people I have come to understand that it's NOTHING like google says it is. And since my first OB I haven't really experienced anything. How many people include "if you're going to google herpes PLEASE don't look at the google images because that's not what happens" in your disclosure talks? I know I have. What can we do to get these google images off the front page because I'm kinda tired of google twat blocking me...just sayin. And I may be in a relationship now and that's awesome but what about all my guys and gals out there still single and fighting the stigma?! And please know I mean no offense if anything I said triggered a flashback or hit to close to OB home...just venting!

Your p-symptoms won't come back positive if swabbed because it's just your bodies way of telling you herpes is trying to start a show in your lady bits but your body is saying no :) I offered this suggestion somewhere else on this forum but I really do believe it works...start up a hobby...and for an hour a day allow your mind to not focus on your stresses. I started reading but have now moved to knitting and the concentration I put into knitting keeps me from thinking about all my life drama. It gives my body a break from my brain and allows it to relax. The less you stress the easier it will be for you body to keep herpes at bay and the less symptoms you will see. Also don't stress when you start feeling something out of the normal but start listening to your body because what you may be experiencing isn't herpes but something else :) <3 love and good vibes

Yay!!! For the H+ guy don't let smoking be a deal breaker...maybe he'll quit soon or switch to e-cigs. And that "don't be afraid" comment rofl hahahaha positive singles is just plain weird. Keep the success stories coming! The more I hear how little the world cares the more I kinda wanna just come out too...

Hey calm down! You're disclosing tonight right? Are you planning to spit out te words then jump right in the sack? Do you want to be with someone who will make such a decision so quickly? I know we all want to be accepted and it would be awesome to have a talk then wham bam thank you mam...but maybe this is your body telling you "hey man I know we both have the same end goal here but I'm a little to amped up from you stressing...let's get this talk out of the way and then when we calm down in a day or two and when our friend is still accepting and ready we can do the deed then!!!" So if you're not on suppressive therapy start your anti virals and if you are on suppressives just breath and calm down it'll be okay :)

Well I had no symptoms that I knew of...no tingling itching or aches...little bump just showed up itched like the dickens for one day then no more it goes but a bump for like a week....weird right? I guess I should clarify I don't know what type I am. Planned parenthood did a visual diagnosis and swabbed and I peed in a cup but when I went for my results they never had anything for results. I'm a little annoyed but I get to check out all my new insurance can do for me now with the type test I'm requesting next docs visit...te only thing that bugs me is where did my pee go?!?!?!!!!

Welcome to our forum!!! :) can you do me a favor? Say "herpes"...good. One more time "herpes"...still giving you that tummy roll? Words only have as much power as you give them. As long as you keep treating the words herpes as "he who must not be named" real name in Harry potter then it's gonna keep having the same effect. I couldn't say herpes for the first six months after being diagnosed. Then I could type it or blurt it out quick if I needed to like during a disclosure. Then I came here and now I can actually say herpes out loud and type it and ya know what? It's just a word and it's just a virus. :) take control of your life one step at a time and it sounds like you're well on your way don't let small things hold you back now!!!!! <3 love and good vibes

Oh it went away when I got my valtrex back lol so I'm pretty positive that was as close to an OB as I've gotten in the past year woohoo! Gooooooo vitamin c and positive thinkiiiiiiiiiing

Like an open ulcer? Hmmm I had those during my first OB but the only thing I've noticed since then is one little bump...not a pimply just a little bump...right were my first OB started. It itched like a mofo but it never opened just kinda...hung out for a bit

Don't spend 99% of your time worrying about a 1% risk. :) that's a saying Adrial said a while back that stuck with me. It's hard to look past what seems to be the end of the world but herpes only has as much power as you let it. There are plenty of people on this forum who have been in relationships with an H- partner and some of us are in one now :) I've had a few partners be negative when they started seeing me and remained negative through our relationship. Open communication and knowing your body will help. @HerryTheHerp time for some of those amazing stats you know!!!!!!

Just keep swimming :)

::grabs paper:: petitioner here at the ready captains!!!!!! Let's do thiiiiiiis

Felareed we fear the unknown. And more often than not what we fear we respond to with negativity and a feirce unrelenting stubbornness to resist learning more. And the truth is most of what we fear, if we knew the truth, wouldn't be so scary. It's like when kids are sacred of a monster under the bed...you can tell them there's no monster but they won't believe you. You can try and show them but they won't go and look because what they've envisioned in their mind is so horrifying...what happens when they eventually look and see nothing but dust bunnies? That's kinda what herpes is...it's not a giant scary monster under the bed just a couple of dust bunnies and maybe some mismatched long forgotten socks :P I've read through some of your posts and it seems like you don't want to let go of this stigma...I'm not saying forget you have herpes but rather try and see the positives. And I wish I could link threads from my phone @WCSDancer2010 care to link the "I'd rather have cancer" thread for me? I think that would be an excellent example of what I'm trying to convey here. <3 love and good vibes chica

I know how you feel hun...I have a friend who's a whore...no really she is a prostitute :( my heart hurts for the emotional damage she's suffered over the years and how little she values herself. She sleeps with men for money while at work and then numerous others just because she's "bored" of her boyfriend. When I found out she was one of the ones I told first and while she didn't make me feel bad right away I remember her looking at me and sayings "if I were in your shoes I would never sleep with someone again that's dirty" and being floored. I went through a long phase after being "okay" where I was angry. I aimed a lot of that negative energy towards her because I was jealous. It wasn't fair in my mind that she could be permiscuous, unfaithful, and a hooker and just walk around unscathed while I make a bad choice and BAM herpes yaaaaay. I feel like it's part of the process...you're angry and want to leave all this behind now but I feel like we have to go through what we do to truest appreciate what life has to offer. Right now you're down and can't see and out so you don't want to wait...but just hold on a little longer and you'll see your anger is not only misplaced but not even needed. And that long horrible wait of a maybe game...well that's there no matter what so why not enjoy it :) if I wouldn't have experienced that anger and hurt I wouldn't be able to truely appreciate the calmness and joy I feel now. If I wouldn't have felt so lost and hopeless then my relationship now wouldn't be as special...look at each down point in life as just the moment before things get really good...hard to do in the moment but know it's coming <3

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Hey I'll be a part of a hopp street team. Get me some stickers and every bar bathroom in a three city radius will be covered...just sayin. I hope you know I am for the most (aka legal) part kidding :D

This seems a good place to put this question...I was wondering if we could all get on the same page with our doctors. Adrial I know I read something somewhere about you teaming up with docs but what if we all print out say five disclosure pamphlets and give them to our doctors to read over. If they want could they not then pass those pamphlets on to people newly diagnosed? Just spinning ideas around in my head lately :)

I should have clarified I meant if one partner had HSV2 and the other HSV1 it is possible to transmit since the body creates different antibodies to each

Herry isn't that only if both partners have the same strain? Just clarifying here:)

Ah sooooo happy for you!!!!!! This site is pretty awsome I ended up sharing a few articles with my boyfriend that I found on here but never cruised the forums. I read my herpes story I posted on Herr for him the one night since he had never heard the whole thing before. Open communication is so hard to come by in my experience so I'm so happy for you and I hope to hear more success stories from you!!! <3

"Stupid games are for stupid people"- New Found Glory "I am a sinner, I am a savior, I am alive"- lyrics from dashboard confessional that I tweaked a bit Both of these are tattooed on me...little sayings to remind me to keep it real

Herry has some good advice there with practicing first though I have come to find that my friends who are closest to me and have known me a long time didn't care. They knew me to be an honest loyal person so when I disclosed they didn't care. My first romantic disclosure was to one of my best friends of six years, I had found out about my herpes while he and I were starting to become romantically involved. I found out and the next night I have this kid kissing me senseless. Day after that I disclosed and it was awkwaaaaaaaaaaaard and depressing haha. I wrote everything down first a couple times to get in my head what to say. In tears after I got the words out he just looked at me and told me he didn't feel any differently and hugged me. Love is love and while we broke up because he's still a kid at heart and not ready for anything serious he's still one of my besties and I love him to death. If you've done all the reading and still want to be sure take this info and go talk to a doctor...gyn or one at planned parenthood is a good idea since they are more knowledgeable about herpes and understanding to peoples need for info. They'll tell you that all your info is correct (I went to my gyn armed with facts of transmission rates and she was like "well I have nothing to teach you you're good! Go forth and fornicate!")

Hahahaha dancer too true!!!! I can't last five minutes in stilletos either though :P I have never waxed before just because the idea terrifies me...my eyebrows are bad enough I can't even begin to think about how that would feel on my delicates! But as herry says you'll never know if you don't try. Don't set yourself up for an ob though by worrying about it once you've gone just relax and stay watchful