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If you read the results correctly and he was tested at least 3 months after you met, it's hsv-1 for sure.. grats! I lived a very healthy lifestyle, yet it hit me hard too. Well done for making that difficult decision regarding your ex btw.. must've taken a fair amount of will power. Good to hear from you.

You know, getting a clear answer is way less stressful than worrying about what could be. Just gotta do it, be proactive and deal with whatever comes of it. It's something you need to know if you plan on moving forward with anyone else in future.

"All guys have dirty dicks" What do you mean - 100% have STDs? I always carried a condom in my wallet, caught H anyway.. funny thing is, you also get judged for expecting to need one - they thought I assumed they were easy! Don't worry wennich, even if you'd come prepared with your own.. If there weren't any sores visible, he was likely shedding which can be anywhere in the trunk region, not just where condoms cover. Statistically, it just means you could've have double the sex with him before catching it, no guarantees.

Oh damn, welcome to Europe.. I think most of us got the 'why me' stage.. punishment for something, cursed with bad luck etc. Beating yourself up like that is a waste of time.. get healing asap. 20% body, 80% mind. What legit said is true, trust us that things will get better - after a while, it's not enough of a reason to be unhappy. I haven't written any inspiring articles, but I'm pretty sure I could be genuinely happy if I just changed a few of my controllable circumstances. So it will no doubt dampen your trip, but the rest of your life is a lot longer than 8 months, and by then you'll hopefully be feeling back to normal. Having said all this.. have you been officially diagnosed? Did you feel anything aside from bumps and the pain they directly caused? Did he perform oral, and if so did you notice anything like a cold sore on his lips?

Yea I am.. they won't do blood tests on the NHS or at GU clinics, but you can pay for them. I'm not sure I'd completely trust the results though. I think my giver checked with a website called better2know.co.uk. they have a lot of clinics around the country. I think it's a bit pricey given the reliability and the chances of it just saying you have hsv1, which almost everyone has. The doc is right to address the mental side of things. All you can do is take valacyclovir when necessary, and address your general health and stress management. The stress of finding out you have herpes, and all the emotions you're experiencing now make the whole thing so much worse. Have a read of this thread on health anxiety.. from the 5th paragraph. http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?s=06ef2b808783fa8222702e0e213f69e7&t=42556 I didn't give it enough credit, didn't think I was crazy etc. But then you realise how many non-H people get the same things you're experiencing for no good reason. I had pins and needles, aches and pains like you mention, and it might have been the virus, but I now believe it was as likely to be caused by stress. Btw I got the lack of appetite too, couldn't look at food for the first few days. It was around the same time as flu symptoms and night sweats. Try to relax and see what happens on Friday. Don't worry, even if it's H, it isn't that bad after a while. Ps. I can't believe you got a GU to swab your eye lol XD

You said it yourself, you're a hypochondriac. I didn't even realise I was, until H came along. If you have those blisters on your foreskin, go and get them swabbed. In the meantime, make an effort to stop googling and relax.. hot baths, country walks whatever does it for you. It's worth doing to take your mind off any possible symptoms. Even if it actually is hsv, it'll help to reduce stress. Itching across your whole body is a perfect example of the anxiety taking effect.. I can't believe some of the miniscule things I noticed about my body whilst I was in that initial shock phase. Maybe have a look on here: http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=42556 Having said that.. if it is Viral Meningitis, there doesn't seem like much you can do about it anyway. You're worrying about a lot of conditions, so I thought the anxiety info might be more useful.

Girl, we all are humans and respond from emotion at times. In every other thread, it's "Men are cowardly shit heads." Now we're all humans? Come on, play fair :P

@bea123 It can never be too early for a swab test, so long as there is a lesion to swab. I'd have to trust the double negative test swabs, and look for an alternative explanation. Did you also take the standard panel of tests for other stds? @2Legit2Quit We should at least stop describing it as mucous then. My OB site isn't in those thinner skin areas either - strange that it should tackle a random patch of regular thickness skin when it could take this easy route which was supposedly the point of entry.

So condoms fully protect guys from herpes? Then what's the problem..

In that case, from personal experience, I can say one of these common facts is wrong: - Initial outbreaks occur at the initial entry point of the virus. - You can't acquire the virus through non-mucous skin.

@bea123 Some people do have outbreaks on their ass cheeks, not just on the mucous membrane areas of the vagina.. where are yours? Most of us have some reason to doubt the official stats and 'laws' of herpes. How accurate was your hsv2 diagnosis? Blood or swab? 1 in 4 billion is almost too unlucky to believe.

Really sorry this hasn't cleared itself up in time.. but since you're not getting clear answers, you're making a lot of assumptions.. ones which aren't easy to deal with. Work with the facts you have - hsv1+ like most of the population (are there more?). Any rashes that aren't around your lips or privates are probably some kind of allergic reaction, even a good chance of it being triggered by the virus without actually being contagious at all. Point is, it's all speculation and will likely drive you crazy with anxiety (of which fibromyalgia may just be a symptom, for all doctors know) If it takes 20 years of tests and living in a bubble to finally be given a full explanation of everything you feel, will you feel happy and justified? To me, it sounds more like something you'd regret when your time's almost up (sorry to bring us this low!). Helping to complete your sexual bucket list sounds like a pretty good trade-off for possible worst-case hsv1 anyway.

Good job mate, seems like a well thought-out delivery. Hope you let us know what happens once she's had a few days to ponder.

Yes, some women do reject men for lesser reasons. There's a diverse bunch of guys, albeit a minority, using this forum too.

Hi Kitty, you're right - a lot of doctors here seem to have a basic, black-and-white understanding of HSV and it's effects.. at best in a way defined by blinkered textbooks. So you have oral HSV1, which 80% of the world has - you already know that, and an HSV blood test will tell you that whether it's on your mouth or anywhere else. Maybe the blood test you had was for other STDs? An HSV-specific blood test won't help, but if you insist, it can only be done privately. The swab will be much more useful if the little cut is anything to do with HSV (but you already seem to have an explanation for the cut.. it's probably that). Oral sex with stubble can cause the irritation that led you to Google, and everything goes downhill once you get there, trust me! Just focus on the facts, and don't assume anything - there are a million explanations for any set of symptoms. How does your partner feel about this, does he have any cause for concern? Send me a message if you're still freaking out. It really doesn't sound like you've anything to worry about though.

That also surprised me.. I thought everyone used condoms, but since getting H found out that isn't true. Nothing crazy about having principles and acting responsibly. Get rid of you ask me.

Maybe a bit of both, I was much more tired for a couple of months, then it downscaled to just noticeably more tired for a year or so.. hard to say which causes it, but I'm usually told that it's the mental side. Or I'm just getting old!

I felt like that for most of the first year, but since then it seems to have gone (unless I've just become used to it!)

It is difficult to say, but at first glance.. and at this stage in the healing.. it doesn't look particularly like your typical herpes outbreak. I'd never be tempted to pop a herpes blister, but since you popped these I think a clear yellow liquid would be typical of herpes, not pus like a pimple.

I like it! Do you have a title?

They never opened up in the 3 times I had them so far, I'd say they lasted about 2 weeks but I haven't counted.

I think everyone gets those red bumps.. I had them a couple of times long before H came along, usually after sex or masturbation.

I did the same... People thought I was crazy when they saw my homemade chart and timelines lol

The reason most Whitlow is HSV1 is that most is in kids, who get oral Herpes and then pick the sores ... and don't do a lot of hand washing/etc .... Yea I get that, I just meant to say that hsv1 can reside in the fingers too. Whatever rain has shown in those photos is what I have too, and given the circumstances I'm convinced it was at least caught from fingering, if not hsv. (though I'm 80% sure it is)

Don't worry, the way you're feeling is temporary.. Im 27 too and was in a similar situation, like a double-hit with the breakup and now hsv (assuming it is). Time will fix it, you just have to get through the days until then without stressing too much. Shit happens, you learn to deal with it and you'll be less affected by any other bad news you might get in the future. Don't bother blaming yourself, what happened was human nature.. we made those decisions and have to stand by them. Hindsight makes it seem stupid, but without that you'd probably do the same again. You're still a good looking confident 27yo with a good job etc... Just with a slight catch, a challenge to figure out once you've recovered. None of the rest changes, imagine how you'd feel without a good job or good looks. Have you got sores to swab btw? What's the confirmation you're waiting for if everything came back negative already?